we have been friends 5 years. im the only person in her life that has remained. her family, her ex husband, every friend she has had over the years want nothing to do with her. im the only constant in her life. she claims I am her best friend but she acts like I'm not. whenever she meets someone new she acts like she doesnt know me and focuses on them until they leave her then she comes back to e
over the years she has done a lot (A LOT) of shady stuff. i didnt judge her, she asked me for advice, i gave it, she ignored it and she did what she wanted anyway. well this last year has been pretty bad. she kind of went off the deep end. did some Really crazy stuff. her son was out of control and I had to set boundaries (her son was not allowed at my house until she go him some therapy) and she got offended and pulled away. I thought we werent friends. we didnt talk for months. I grieved our friendship, i moved on.
she met some guy and wanted me to meet him. i did, i hated him. i knew right away he was bad news. he was living in a halfway house and fresh out of prison for bank robbery/ her marriage broke up, she went through a divorce, the guy was emotionally abusive. for months I had to deal with her bawling histerically on the phone. they broke up, made up, time and time again. finally i got tired of it and told her I didnt want to hear about it anymore and she pulled back again.
she had a girl move in to her house as a barter for childcare. its worked out pretty well. I figure now that she doesnt need to use her boyfriend for childcare she will get rid of him. eventually she gets tired of him demanding to see her phone records and to see her texts (he's smart to do so because she is looking for a new boyfriend while they are living together) and they are done.
its a year later. her son is on meds and seems to be doing well with his therapy. i am allowing him now to be around my kids. things seem like we will be able to repair our fragile friednship (she still calls me her bestfriend) then i hear that her and her ex are gettng back together again! they dont even like each other! wtf! so I tell her, that she can do what she wants but as before I wont be going to her house, she wont be bringig him to my house an d I dont want to hear anything about him. she thinks I should give him another chance and that i should support her (emotionally abusive) relationship. i tell her regardless of what i think of "them" i cant stand the guy. just thinking about him makes my blood pressure rise. I dont EVER want to see him again, I dont want anything to do with him, i want to pretend he doesnt exist.
of course shes pissed. she thinks everything should be hunky dory and I should just pretend the past never happened. shes blasting me on facebook saying that a real friend should be supportive and be there to pick up the pieces when she screws up. um i've been there to pick them up time and time again. i've been there when everyone of her fair weather friends have ditched her I'm pretty pissed because she totally is phony in front of everyone else and it annoys me.
i finally tell her I''m done. not to call me in 3 months and pretend she didnt know we werent friends. to act like she doest know me when we run into each other in public etc im finished. ive been nothing but a good friend to her and shes done nothing but crap on me. shes done so much shady stuff, stuff she would never be able to tell someone else. shes. i dont often give second chances, I dont know what kind of pull she has over me. i've said Im done so many times. i dont get anything out of this, why am I still friends with her? i wish she would just move away and never contact me again.
then she texts me and shes so full of crap. totally contradicting herself from all the stuff shes said the lastt couple of days. i'm sick of her treating me like a back up friend. i'm sick of watching her make collasal mistakes and ignoring my advice. finding out shes been hosting playgroups and intentionally not including me etc. im done.
how the heck do I just move on? she is like a rash that just wont go away!