I really love coffee. I love the beans, the roast, the grind, the press, the sip. The ritual. I like that I is my undeniable thing that I must have that no one in my family needs, but they respect my desire for it--and my time drinking it. In a Mama's world, where few things are purely mine, this is the one thing I lay claim to with ferocity and self indulgence.
That said, I was concerned about loss of iron during pregnancy and in the newborn phase, so I quit cold turkey using willpower in my first month of being pregnant. I didnt start again until my babe was more than two months old. Then, I was moderate, at 1 cup in the morning. Now that that the wee one is now almost three years old, I am up to one four-cup French press in the morning. Sometimes I have an espresso shot at around 3 pm, but I try not to, since after noon it definitely affects my sleep that night.
I love my habit, and don't think it a bad one. It's my pleasure. However, lately, I have been thinking that my child's sleep patterns may be affected, too, even though we only nurse before coffee a.m., after lunch (nap), and at bedtime. I'm doubtful of any real affect, but I was just thinking about it...
Also, already, my babe thoroughly enjoys what I enjoy and has memorized every detail of how to make coffee with the French press. Not that it can be executed, but it is definitely observed. I have already started to not like having a beer or wine with dinner at home because a three year old saying "I have beer too?" kind of makes me ill. I wonder if the request for coffee will come next...
As a balance, I will add that I've known women whose parents gave them water with a *drop* of wine (just enough to color it) at family dinners and warm milk with a drop of coffee in it in the morning. Just so neither would ever turn into something Forbidden. And no harm came from it, nor obsessions with either beverage... Just another part of life to enjoy.
I would love to hear stories from mamas of toddlers about this topic, but maybe that's for another thread...
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