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4/23/11 at 7:49pm
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My daughter is just over 2 and for various reasons, I am the one who gets her to sleep, normally nursing.  I also nurse (and sometimes walk or rock) her back to sleep in the middle of the night.  After 2 years, I am starting to find that my patience is waning and my sleep deprivation is keeping me from doing things to keep me as a happy mommy.  I am a stay at home mom so I am on duty 24-7.  My husband is great with my daughter, but she prefers Mommy to nurse her to sleep.

 

I figure if we can find a way for her to go to sleep with Daddy then she might accept him more readily in the middle of the night.  Plus, he hates that she only wants me to put her to sleep and I have been so afraid of not being home when she wants to go to sleep that I am not getting enough time to myself.

 

My newest idea is that I should be out of the house two nights a week for a while so that they can form their own going to sleep together pattern.  If I am at home, I will surely hover and not be able to listen to any cries for me without running to her.

 

My real concern is that my daughter is very strong-willed (high need) and I worry that she will cry and cry and cry for long periods of time.  Since she is now two years old, she is also very particular about routines and rituals.  I feel bad that we didn't do this earlier, but there is no use in worrying about the past now.  The good thing is that we can talk to her about it before it happens to prepare her a little.

 

I guess I'm looking for other stories or suggestions to help ease us into this transition.  Bedtime is a struggle for me in any case, so it will also be a needed break for me from that. 

 

Thank you for any feedback. 

 

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