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kawa kamuri 
I know how but I'd literally have to put my entire hand inside my vagina to reach 
when I do it I usually have to use three fingers, otherwise I can't get near enough reach. Perineal massage and, as crazy as it sounds, DIVA CUPS helped me learn how to identify and relax the muscles around my vaginal opening... a skill that literally took me well over a decade to learn! Prior to that, I suffered with pretty severe and debilitating vaginisms that completely prevented that, as well as tampon use and often even sex. :( I always thought massage was for stretch control, but it's actually more for helping you find and learn the muscles in the area, which in turn can help make birth easier as it can effect the way you push as well as how tightly you might 'hold on' when experiencing the pain of crowning.
Without that skill I'd never be able to do it! And well... TMI, but having more control of that area (including the ability to loosen up at will) really really makes certain other activities a lot more fun and adventurous. 
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