I have read different moms speak of their experience of tandem nursing during pregnancy and I am assuming that some or most of you then nursed 3 babies at once. For those of you I need some help/advice.
I am currently tandem nursing my 21mo and 3.5yo and am about 15 weeks pregnant. I really wanted to get pregnant this soon but I was concerned about my nursing relationship with my oldest being compromised. I fully expected to allow everyone to nurse until they were done (I guess what everyone calls clw - which I expected to last at least until 4.5 if not longer) but since I became pregnant, nursing my oldest has driven me absolutely crazy. At first, when I didn't know I was pregnant, I couldn't figure out why and I was just getting angry every time I tandem nursed. My solution was to no longer nurse simultaneously and that has helped. But basically I feel like I am unintentionally intentionally weaning my oldest and it's terrible. (if that makes any sense) I have basically cut him back to only nursing 3-5 times a day for very short durations. Its not so bad that i "cut him back" so much in frequency, whats bad is that I can barely stand nursing him so much that I sometimes can't even make it for much more than a minute. Until I became pregnant I had no problems nursing them pretty much whenever wherever. I guess what I'm asking is if anyone had a strong aversion toward nursing during pregnancy that let up after their baby was born? I still hope to continue nursing my oldest - and he so so loves nursing but I experienced nothing like this while nursing one while pregnant. I don't know if we are going to make it to Oct and beyond but I am hoping nursing will return to "normal" when I am no longer pregnant. Obviously, I am absolutely not hoping that he will stop nursing during this pregnancy if he does it will be my doing and it's not at all how I want our nursing relationship to end (it's terrible right now and entirely my fault)- just hoping others have some btdt experience to share. TIA!
I am currently tandem nursing my 21mo and 3.5yo and am about 15 weeks pregnant. I really wanted to get pregnant this soon but I was concerned about my nursing relationship with my oldest being compromised. I fully expected to allow everyone to nurse until they were done (I guess what everyone calls clw - which I expected to last at least until 4.5 if not longer) but since I became pregnant, nursing my oldest has driven me absolutely crazy. At first, when I didn't know I was pregnant, I couldn't figure out why and I was just getting angry every time I tandem nursed. My solution was to no longer nurse simultaneously and that has helped. But basically I feel like I am unintentionally intentionally weaning my oldest and it's terrible. (if that makes any sense) I have basically cut him back to only nursing 3-5 times a day for very short durations. Its not so bad that i "cut him back" so much in frequency, whats bad is that I can barely stand nursing him so much that I sometimes can't even make it for much more than a minute. Until I became pregnant I had no problems nursing them pretty much whenever wherever. I guess what I'm asking is if anyone had a strong aversion toward nursing during pregnancy that let up after their baby was born? I still hope to continue nursing my oldest - and he so so loves nursing but I experienced nothing like this while nursing one while pregnant. I don't know if we are going to make it to Oct and beyond but I am hoping nursing will return to "normal" when I am no longer pregnant. Obviously, I am absolutely not hoping that he will stop nursing during this pregnancy if he does it will be my doing and it's not at all how I want our nursing relationship to end (it's terrible right now and entirely my fault)- just hoping others have some btdt experience to share. TIA!
