My daughter just turned 5 and my son is 2.5. I began working as a birth and postnatal doula last year and am really loving it. I've also recently decided to become a childbirth educator and have looked into doing the training for that later this year. My marriage is better than it's ever been, we're finally digging ourselves out of the financial hole we were in for so long when I wasn't bringing in an income and I'm finally getting time to exercise, see friends, travel and take up new hobbies.
I thought I was done having children but lately I've been thinking that I'd like another. I'd like to experience pregnancy and birth again, breastfeed a newborn again (DS only stopped bf a month ago) and can really imagine a third child slotting right into our hearts. It's the slotting into our lives that I'm worried about!
Thought my heart and body are saying to have another, the rational (or maybe neurotic!) part of my brain keeps going, "Yeah, but then you'd have to get a bigger car, a bigger house (or lose my office), go through all that sleeplessness and irritability again -- which effects our marriage, couldn't work for awhile so back to financial troubles, no time to do anything for myself, etc.."
I'm going to be 32 in a couple months so I have plenty of time biologically (I assume so anyway) but my husband is 37 and has said that while he's happy with two, if I really want a third he'd like to do it sooner rather than later as he won't have any more children after he turns 40. I suppose I could wait a year or two still but by then my youngest will be getting ready to go off to school and then it would be like starting over again. Though I suppose in a way it would be quite nice to get the oldest two off to school and then have time to devote to the third?
Just looking for some insight or advice on deciding whether and when to have a third or whether one's 'broody' feelings will pass and that if it doesn't make sense practically, it might not be a good idea.