What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine, and if you want it IT"S MINE!!! - Page 2

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Lazy Gardens 

It's normal toddler behavior. It will end when it ends, and the more you make an issue of it, the higher your stress level goes. If you can't deal with a non-sharing toddler, keep yourself out of the group play area and let her do her thing.

Looking back at my extended family's children - some were sharers as toddlers and some weren't. By the time they were 4 or so, they would freely share most toys. There was no pressure to make them share THEIR favorite toys (as compared to the family sand-box toys, general games, etc.).

Again, I don't care if she doesn't share the toys she's currently using. It's that she'll go out of her way to try to take toys that other people are currently using, or will go out of her way to try to keep toys from others.

E.g. she's happily playing with a couple train cars at the train table. There are other train cars laying on the table and she doesn't do anything with them as she's pushing the train cars around. Then another kid comes up and reaches for a train car on the table. DD will let go of the train cars she was playing with to rush over to the other kid to try to grab the train cars she wasn't even looking at before. (While telling the kid to "Share!" because of exposure to families who force sharing.)
 

[Arduinna]

Honestly I think those toddler play tiimes are more for the moms than the toddlers, because kids that young often do not play well with others.

[mosomers]

As one who used to take care of 13 two year olds at church for a couple of hours a week, I found this to be super useful and surprising:

"Why don't you ask if so-and-so will give you that toy when he/she's done with it? Say, 'May I have a turn when you're done please?'"

Amazingly, little 2yo's would stop tantruming, say, "Ha tuwn when you done pees?" and then wait patiently until the other child gave them the toy, which only took a matter of seconds. And it really did look like they were putting aside their egotism for a second and wanting to make another kid happy! It was fantastic!

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Arduinna 

Honestly I think those toddler play tiimes are more for the moms than the toddlers, because kids that young often do not play well with others.

No, that was the playgroups before when she was too little to care what toy she had as long as she had a toy. Then I could sit and chatter and occasionally find her a new toy. Now? Now we only go to group activities because she's begging to play with kids.