I am going to do a joint birthday party for my soon to be 9 (DS) and 5 (DD) next month. (Already reserved a park). Their b.day is 3 weeks apart. Mostly we will invite family and mutual friends that they both know and a few friends that my DS knows from church.
I have another DS who turned 2 in Feb. who didn't have a birthday party (except a small family dinner and a blow on a candle in a cupcake, no gifts were present) so I thought it would be nice to include him in the party and get him a big cake with his own candle to blow.
I am thinking of maybe send separate invites for family, mutual friend (letting them know it is a joint party) and DS's friends/DD's friends for invites (maybe not mentioning the joint party?- I don't know...)
--is not telling guests that it is a joint party a bad or good idea? I don't want them feel obligated to bring gifts to both kids when they only know one kid but then i don't want them feel awkward either.
--Is it ok to include DS2 in the party, should I mention him in the invites (I was thinking only letting family member and close friends know but then again I don't want them feel pressured to bring 3 gifts to all kids). Or should I not mention of him in the invites and just add his cake and let him blow his candle when it is time for cake?
-- How should I phrase the invitation? Do I mention any "gift", like no gift required, no gift please, gift optional, or not mention at all? Again, I don't want guests to feel pressured to bring gifts for all kids but then mentioning "gift" seem awkward too.
---How about asking a toys/books swap instead of gifts. I've been to one party where we all brought our toys/books and it was like a swap meet. Kids went through boxes and chose their new toys.
Any advice is very much appreciated. I've never done joint party or at the park, so this is new to me LOL...