if you give your kids allowance, then how does this change what you buy for them?
We don't buy much and dd rarely asks for anything so we don't have a problem buying her things she wants.
Recently she expressed interest in having some money of her own. Now when I hear others talk about allowance it usually has more to do with decision making about money - like parents who give their kids allowance then have the prerogative of saying, "you can get x out of your allowance." or kids who have allowance can buy things that their parents wont buy for them, using their allowance, provided they are "allowed" to have the thing.
Anyway, we don't have any of those dynamics here (yet). I can't think of a time I did not buy something she wanted - usually it is me suggesting things to buy anyway, she almost never does.
So if I were to give her allowance, then I probably would not change anything about how I respond to her requests. She mentioned once that she would use her money to get nail polish. I think she must have thought that I would not buy nail polish - she has never asked for it but it is also true that we don't have any in the house and I have never bought it or worn it (or any other make-up). She has had her nails painted a couple of times - by my sister and I think by one of her friends once. So while I did not want to cut into her pleasure of buying something herself with "her" money, I did not want her to think that I would not buy nail polish for her. In fact I have never said anything about nail polish, positive or negative. So I said something like she could have her own money and that I could buy nail polish. We talked about this while eating dinner and the topic did not come up again - neither did she ask for the money nor the polish. I am sure she has not forgotten about it or anything, but it was not urgent either.
Question - when you give allowance do you give a nominal amount so they get practice spending and saving, or do you give enough for them to take over some of their own expenses thus relieving you of the same?