i second this. have you seen a urologist or urogyn??? there are meds for incontinence, i'm told. i have a problem with frequent UTIs and after almost 2 years (after the birth of ds2) of dealing with UTIs every single month, i FINALLY found a good urologist who helped me. ask for a 2nd opinion if you're not happy with the first. i did and i am so happy i did. i'd still be dealing with this if i'd stayed with the first fool i was with. grrr. i'm still seething. he had me stop nursing my son at 8 months to try a bunch of prescriptions that didn't even work. THEN he gave up on me, saying that there was nothing else to try. he didn't even do any tests!! he just relied on tests another doc did while i was pregnant. i went to my family doc, asked to try a med i was on before i was pregnant with ds2 and then saw another urologist who said it was actually her recommendation (and she explained exactly why it was working.) i am on a med that does miracles for me now and couldn't be happier. i was so tired of taking antibiotics for a month at a time. it was awful.
i know what incontinence is like. i had a problem with it after ds2 but worked on kegels and in time, i have improved. one of the things that gives me a sign i have a UTI is incontinence. i know plenty of mamas with incontinence and prolapsed bladders. i was shocked at how many admitted to having a problem when the topic came up! i thought i was alone in having issues.
Oh my gosh! I just want to tell you how much I sympathise. I'm 29, and have been having the same problem since the birth of my daughter. I know what you mean about humiliating. No one understands-- nobody. Even when you go to get help about this issue-- all the ads and brochures etc are aimed at old people.
I've had to change my pants at the mall, and I peed myself at my son's playground, right there by the swings. I can't do hardly anything without peeing myself-- standing up, picking up my son or daughter etc. lately I thought I was getting better, but yesterday I such a horrible experience that I can't even get into the details here- it's too embarrassing even for the internet.
I wanted to put a vote for physical therapy-- it's the only thing that gave me hope; and a little bit of relief. I can now hold my pee for certain things.
Oh-- and btw, re child I had a c-section and then a vbac. my pt said that the section likely contributed to the muscle weekness-- this doesn't happen as a cause of vag birth alone.
I will post more later.
Have you seen a urogyn? I ask because you could have something wrong with your bladder itself, like stones or something. If you couple a bladder disorder with weak pelvic floor muscles it can be very hard to control your urine flow. Just a thought. And (((hugs)))