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post #21 of 93
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You know I think I'm just going to call mine my "power bundle" from now on wink1.gif

I read that somewhere in a book about empowering girls. Do you like it?innocent.gif

I've never heard of the book before, so I don't know if I like it, but I sure do like my power bundle wink1.gif
post #22 of 93
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Does anybody have book recomendations or preschool-friendly online PowerBundle/vagina/vulva/labia/clit diagrams?

post #23 of 93
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Does anybody have book recomendations or preschool-friendly online PowerBundle/vagina/vulva/labia/clit diagrams?


i don't think that exists (something that detailed, meant for preschoolers) - just a guess.  my recommendation is to get a diagram for yourself to make sure you know, and then if dd wants to know, she doesn't need a visual aid - just a mirror and the correct answer from her mom.  she asked a one-time question, "what is this?" and it seems like overkill to go from there into the need for a book about it.  is she truly not satisfied with your answer?  what more does she really need to know?

 

post #24 of 93
First, I think you did a great job answering your daughter's question by telling her it's her clitoris! My 3 year old knows where her clitoris is, too (because she asked).

I use vulva but I agree that vagina is common usage, easily understood, and MUCH better than all the "fake" words that are still so common!

I just did a quick Amazon search for the word "sex", then narrowed it down to Books, then Children's Books, then 0-3. I came up with a bunch of things that look like they might fit the bill, including:

http://www.amazon.com/Who-Where-Come-Pop-Up-Book/dp/0307106187/

http://www.amazon.com/Amazing-You-Getting-Smart-Private/dp/0142410586/

http://www.amazon.com/Whats-Big-Secret-Talking-about/dp/0316101834/

http://www.amazon.com/Bare-Naked-Book-Annick-Toddler/dp/0920303536/

and lots more. You could also try doing a search of the next age group up. (I find that many of the books are mis-categorized re: age.) I haven't read or looked at any of these, so I have no idea if they're any good, but they all have reviews that seem helpful.

Good luck!
post #25 of 93
P.S. I do think it's important to tell girls specifically that "what the clitoris does" is feel good to touch it. And then leave it at that. Many girls never figure this out until way too late -- long after they're sexually active, and often having bad sex for bad reasons, in part because they don't realize that their own bodies can and should experience sexual pleasure. (I work in this field and talk with young women about this all the time.)

I'm not saying that anyone's preschooler should be having sex. But the same way we teach the purpose of other body parts, if a girl asks what it's for, I do think the clitoris has an important purpose, and there's huge value in girls knowing this without it needing to be a big deal or an involved conversation.
post #26 of 93

I remember when I was last pregnant, and my 5 and 6 year old daughters told my aunt the baby was going to come out of my vagina. My aunt was like "Where did they learn that word!?" I said, "They have one!?" And oh you should have heard her when one of my kids said something about a penis!! Like they are bad words to say!

 

I actually do NOT call my abdomen my stomach, ever. My stomach is an organ inside me, and I have been a very literal person since early childhood. I am ok with calling it a belly but I even taught my kids it's not your stomach. (and to say there's a baby in your stomach? really pisses me off LOL)

 

I always used funny names for body parts after the kids learned the real names. I rarely call them toes now, they are piggies. My reasoning is that I don't want my kids growing up and sounding ignorant because they don't know what something is called. I always wondered when my aunt goes to the doctor with a yeast infection or something, does she say, "Doc, my monkey smells funkey!" Or does she just call it, "Down there"?

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"Doc, my monkey smells funkey!"



 

LOL!!!ROTFLMAO.gif

 

post #28 of 93

So...here is the thing...we have casual/common/non-medical/not-scientific words for most body parts and areas of the body but they evolved or came about before it was acceptable to talk about genitals or private parts or breasts. So we are stuck with the medical/scientific name or whatever goofy name we have come up with.  I just had brutal knee surgery. I refer to it as knee surgery and everyone understands what I am talking about. My surgeon lists "knees" as one of his specialties. BUT I don't think the word "knee" appears once in the surgery report. My surgery involved the femoral condyle, patella and medial petellorfemoral ligament. Vagina is the same type of word as femur, vulva is the same type of word as patella, clitoris is the same type of word as petellorfemoral ligament. There is nothing more medical or scientific about a knee than a "vagina" we just aren't required or expected to use the medical/scientific words to talk about it.

 

I was raised to say vulva etc. and my mom gets really annoyed that I don't use the "right" words. I think some of us intuitively don't want to use vulva because it sounds scientific and medical. I do not walk around telling people that I dislocate my patella. I tell them that I dislocate my knees and I don't have to worry about people thinking I am ignorant and uninformed because we have a "common" everyday word in our language to describe that body part. It has evolved in our language to use the word "vagina" to describe the whole genital area. I would prefer an even different word, but we don't have another common word in our cultrue. I also don't think someone needs to know the anatomical name of every part of the body, I wouldn't think someone was ignorant if they didn't know what part of the female anatomy was a vulva any more than I would think it ignorant that someone calls the sticky-outie part of a knee a knee-cap and not a patella... It's a deficiency in our language. I feel snooty and clinical telling people that I dislocate my patella when knee cap works just fine and everyone knows what it is. I feel snooty and clinical calling my vulva a vulva. eyesroll.gif The "but it's correct" or "it's accurate" admonition doesn't work for me for the reasons I've tried to explain...

 

Furthermore, we don't need to know the anatomical names of body parts in order for them to work properly. That isn't true for knees, why the heck would that be true for genitals? I don't think we should be prudish or shameful about sex or genitals, but I am not very comfortable with being so clinical either, I really wish there was a better option...

post #29 of 93

My parents had a great movie that they showed me at an early age. Its called "where do I come from." Very informative, entertaining, and very easy to discuss after viewing. You could probably find it on ebay, I think it was made in the 80's

post #30 of 93

With the stomach/abdomen comparison....I don't think that's quite right.

 

Saying vagina when you mean vulva is like saying penis when you mean scrotum.

 

I don't really see how "vulva" is any more clinical than "vagina." They're both clinical terms. Might as well teach them right....especially when the little girl asked about her "coochie" to begin with. If she's going to call the entire thing a coochie, then she should know that the vagina is the inside part.

post #31 of 93

I am all for using correct terminology too.

 

I would also reconsider letting her call her genitalia her ''coochie''. That is considered very rude slang in a lot of places.

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I would also reconsider letting her call her genitalia her ''coochie''. That is considered very rude slang in a lot of places.


That was my thought as well...up there with p***y...but to each their own..

 

post #33 of 93

My kids call their "private parts" their real names because it is important to know those, in particular.  I  could care less about tummies and toes or common usage.  I want my daughter and sons not to be ignorant in regards to their genitalia.  It feels disrespectful to me and, God forbid, in a very bad situation, they can't rightly explain what they are talking about.

 

ETA:  My best friend did not know that she had more than one hole "down there" at 23yo and in labor she called her vagina, her "part".  "My part!  My part hurts!"  The midwife had no idea what she was saying and it felt very sad to me that people can be so disconnected with their body.

post #34 of 93
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My parents had a great movie that they showed me at an early age. Its called "where do I come from." Very informative, entertaining, and very easy to discuss after viewing. You could probably find it on ebay, I think it was made in the 80's



I loved that film as a kid and the book too! 

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Except that it's inaccurate. Do you refer to the limb which extends from shoulder to wrist your elbow? Same thing.

 

 


 

I broke my arm right above the wrist. I've said "I broke my arm", "I broke my ulna and radius", "I broke my wrist", "I can't use my left hand"... Yes some are more accurate deceptions  than others. But it's all close enough and gets my point across. Vulva and Vagina are close enough that most people know what you are talking about.

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I broke my arm right above the wrist. I've said "I broke my arm", "I broke my ulna and radius", "I broke my wrist", "I can't use my left hand"... Yes some are more accurate deceptions  than others. But it's all close enough and gets my point across. Vulva and Vagina are close enough that most people know what you are talking about.


Maybe you think they are close enough, but I certainly don't.  It's like saying your collar bone is broken vs. a hand bone being broken.  When you want to be specific, then you talk about vaginal canal, cervix, fallopian tubes, inner labia, outer labia, etc.  But to say your clitoris is the same as your vagina is about on par with saying your wrist is your shoulder.  Huge difference, and yes, it does matter.  If for no other reason than the fact that when you use proper terms, it leads to better health care, better discussion, and it shows (at least to your spouse and physician hopefully) that you know what you are talking about.  Knowledge is power.  Let's empower our daughters.  And sons... they need to know these parts too, when they get older.

 

post #37 of 93
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Vulva and Vagina are close enough that most people know what you are talking about.


No.. they aren't. One is a hole and hidden. The other is pair of sweet lips holding a clitoris and making things tidy. Not the same.eyesroll.gif
post #38 of 93
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The other is pair of sweet lips holding a clitoris and making things tidy. 


love.gif gorgeous 

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Maybe you think they are close enough, but I certainly don't.  It's like saying your collar bone is broken vs. a hand bone being broken.  When you want to be specific, then you talk about vaginal canal, cervix, fallopian tubes, inner labia, outer labia, etc.  But to say your clitoris is the same as your vagina is about on par with saying your wrist is your shoulder.  Huge difference, and yes, it does matter.  If for no other reason than the fact that when you use proper terms, it leads to better health care, better discussion, and it shows (at least to your spouse and physician hopefully) that you know what you are talking about.  Knowledge is power.  Let's empower our daughters.  And sons... they need to know these parts too, when they get older.

 

 

Agreed. I mean, can you imagine going to the doctor and saying you've been using lots of Chapstick because your throat hurts?
 

 

post #40 of 93
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Originally Posted by MamaPalooza View Post

My parents had a great movie that they showed me at an early age. Its called "where do I come from." Very informative, entertaining, and very easy to discuss after viewing. You could probably find it on ebay, I think it was made in the 80's



We had that book, too.  And also What's Happening to Me (about puberty) from the same series.  They were great.  I pored over them, and had them read to me and read them myself many times.

 

ETA:  I guess I missed the word "movie".  I never saw the movie, but loved the books.

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