Exbf wants to be VERY involved. This is his first child, and he doesn't want to miss a thing. (I explained to him that even evry involved, married parents miss out on some stuff, but he didn't like that.) He seems to want to spend half time with the baby, and says that if I want to breastfeed, I should just plan on pumpng, so that baby doesn't have to be with me all the time and can stay overnight, etc. with Daddy. He does not like the idea of only seeing baby on my time, on my turf.
I have a 6yo son and know all about breastfeeding. I did not make much of an effort to bf exclusively--he just got formula when I went to work. I did try pumping, but I didn't have a great pump, and never got much. Now that I know about ap, I really want to do it right this time around. I can't afford a pump, so plan to avoid it. I am getting started as a mobile massage therapist, and will hopefully be doing that full time by the time baby is born, so would like exbf to come with me to my clients and spend alone bonding time with baby then, and I can bf before and after. Outside of that, exbf can come see baby every day if he wants to. Once baby starts supplementing with solids, he can have baby alone for hours at a time--as long as he moves to a place where no one smokes indoors.
Exbf was appaled that i'd only let him see baby a few hours a day, and prob at my home. I'd come visit him, but it's really important to me that baby get all the bf benefits, and I don't think pumping just for exbf's sake is the best for baby. Opinions? Anyone know more about pumping vs. feeding at breast?