I had court over the last few days and I finally got my final orders. My ex was given the kids for the weekend with the condition he let me speak to them daily. Then our hearing was placed for that Monday. I gave the kids their own cell phone which was promptly shut off when I dropped them off. I didn't hear from them again. When it came time for the hearing at 1:30 on Monday and my ex hadn't shown I was hysterical. 20 minutes into the hearing my lawyer told the judge we were extremely concerned for the children's well being and that I hadn't heard from them once. The judge immediately ordered my ex's rights terminated and that the kids be returned to me immediatly. We were waiting for the judge to sign an order so we could go file kidnapping charges and then my ex strolled in. At this point I was bawling and screaming that my kids were kidnapped and where were they. I was telling the judge that he gave my ex the weekend to run off with them and they could be anywhere. My ex walks in and says sorry the kids are all vomiting non stop and I couldn't find anyone to watch them. The judge put the orders on hold and we began the testimony. My ex refused to give an address of where the kids were located. He literally stated they were in some cabin at some state park. He refused to give the last names of the people watching them. The judge kept repeating he was very worried about the children's well being. Then my ex saw that his ex girlfriend and the mother of his other child was present. She had flown up for my hearing. That freaked him out. She went on the stand and when my lawyer started questioning her about the abuse he had done to her she lost it and was crying uncontrollably. My ex asked her the most ridiculous questions. Like isn't it true you have a thryoid condition that makes you paranoid and lie uncontrollably? Seriously. My ex kept pointing to me and his ex throughout the hearing saying we were liars, there was no abuse, and we were just gaining up on him. He also said all of the police reports filed on the domestic violence against her and I were all falsified and he was the true victim. After 4 hours of testimony the judge demanded the children be returned to me immediatly because he was very worried for their well being. He told my ex to take them to the local police station right away. The judge then sent in 2 extra balifs to protect me and his ex. My ex stormed out ranting and raving and calling us shameless. I drove to the police station immedialty and requested a police presence. After 2 hours of waiting the police started calling him. He told the police he never realized he was supposed to return the children, he provided them with a fake address, and the police told him he had 20 minutes to show or they were coming for him. He immediatly showed up. The kids were exhausted and starving. They told me their dad refused to feed them because starvation was the only way to get over the flu. The next day I had to return for the next hearing. Now my lawyer got to question my ex. My ex really lost it during his testimony, He got really angry and started yelling out that this was a witch hunt. The reason why he says the kids phone was shut off was because their phone was stolen out of the car. He said his friend borrowed the car and that during that time my kids phone and his friends phone was stolen. Now keep in mind that I recently filed a violation of restraining order charges against my ex due to the high volume of threatening/harrassing text messages and they were all on the kids phone. During him questioning me on the stand he had asked if I had taken pictures of the text messages and I said no they were all forwarded to the D.A. He said well then your case won't stand because you could have edited them. So that phone was "stolen". Then the kids inform me that his friends phone was returned. Some man named "bud" bought it from someone and returned it. But my kids phone was nowhere to be found. So in court my lawyer is quesitoning my ex. Why didn't the kids have the phone? Why did his friend have the car? Why was his phone mysteriously returned within hours? Why didn't my ex call me from his own phone? It was clear the theft was staged by my ex. My ex was so angry and just rambling on and on about how he was the victim of abuse not his ex's and he just loved his kids so much. My lawyer was like well then why have you never paid support in 4 years? My ex actually told the court that his only income came from his marijuana grow operation and his homes which were used as sober living facilities which were full of drug convicts. I'm not kidding.
In the end the judge ordered that my original court order from 2007 be reinstated. He can have the 1st weekend of the month, 6 hours each day, professionally supervised at a supervised center and he pay all the costs. He must enter into the 52 weeks batterer's program that was ordered in 2007 but that he never did by June 9th and provide proof or all of his visitation rights will be terminated.
Finally. This is proof to keep fighting for whatever you believe in. I never gave up in my fight for the courts to see how dangerous and crazy my ex is. My lawyer kept saying that we had to wait for him mess up. And he did. Unfortunatley my kids had to go through a horrible weekend with him and I had to suffer through thinking my kids were kidnapped but in the end my ex did show how dangerous he was and that he should not have children unsupervised. It took me 4 long years in court. Now my kids will be safe from his madness. Thanks to you all for the continued support.
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