So, I am hoping to get some perspective and possibly advice from fellow expecting ladies seeing midwives.
I went to my first midwife appointment a month ago and during the intake it came out that my husband was previously married and had two kids at home with the same midwife practice (there are a huge shortage of midwives here. I tried to get in with another practice that the ex had no contact with, no luck). Now we asked for the team of midwives who had the least clinical contact with the ex, but nevertheless, the midwife asked for the names of the midwives for the birth of the step kids, and even questioned whether my husband wanted to take the Bradley classes again and "go through that again". They then went on to talk about the different prenatal classes he and his ex took together. She made notes about the ex in MY chart. The ex is already so much a part of my reality and I really wanted this to be sacred between just my husband and I.... The step kids are with us more than half of the time and I love them very much. In fact I spend the most time with them out of any parent. But they were 5 and 2 when I met them. I was not part of their births and I don't feel comfortable with having the ex a part of this birth - even just by referring to her or talking about the births of the step kids during my appointments.
I have my second appointment with the same midwife and I have been so upset about this... am I over reacting? I was planning on talking to her about it... what are your thoughts about this?
Thanks for your help :)