If YOU have chosen not to test, is your partner behind you? Did your partner car either way? Did you productively discuss pro and cons, or just both agree from the beginning?
Me and my husband are having a bit of a disagreement about the testing I would normally have at 12 weeks. I turned it down at my last appointment, without even thinking he would care. When I told him (a week later) he DID care. Even thought we both agree that no matter what the results were, we would never terminate the pregnancy- he feels that if on the off chance something was wrong, he would want to know to be able to prepare himself.
I just don't feel that way. I just want to relax, and not worry, and enjoy a pregnancy for the first time. I don't want ANY testing I don't absolutely HAVE to have.
I feel like his opinion needs to be validated, since we are after all a partnership. I don't want to shrug him off, pat him on the head, and there-there him (ok, I *do* want to do that, but I know I shouldn't). But I don't want to just HAVE the test even though I'm opposed to it.