I've dealt with this IRL, still dealing with fallout, which is how I came across this article tonight. Thought I'd post it since there are a few threads of women handling this or questioning this right now. I found reading thru the article to be pretty awakening. I just want to find my spark again, and got stuck in a situation that snuffed me out for many years. This article tapped a few nerves in me... maybe it could help someone else. Wishing strength and light for anyone who connects with the words in this link.
(i know, i know, the link title is odd, the article it links is really head on about breaking down the guts of this type of relationship and has a lot of wisdom within... give it a shot, despite the link title.)