I am just getting to read this thread after a week away without internet and wow it's making me feel better. We are having latch issues as well...not nipple damage, though, milk transfer problems. Shallow latch at the start and a reluctance to latch (we tried self attachment for over 90 minutes right after the birth, until I really HAD to get up and pee! and then tried latching her side lying and no luck there, either - she didn't latch until later on in day 1). She had decent drkning latches (not perfect, but getting milk) up to day 3, then my milk rushed in and my breasts were so firm, she got REALLY mad. She was holding steady on weight but very frustrated (as was I), tired, hungrier than she would like to be, not dehydrated but not well hydrated, and didn't poop for 4 days. By Day 6 I was ready to try something to improve everyone's mood, so we started pumping and finger feeding/suck training. Now it's day 10 and we're still at that phase...she will latch and drink a little once or twice a day, but she is still not fussy (or able to?) on getting a nice deep latch and really getting into a good suck pattern, despite great sucking (lovely looking latch, good tongue action, finger way back in her mouth, etc) at the finger. Sigh. We will perservere, no question, but it's tiring. I am going to call the chiro today, it can't hurt...her initial latching was after the midwife did some cranio sacral therapy on her, it definitely got her opening wider but she still hasn't coordinated everything together.
This is a first for me...my two previous babies had shallow latches but they were gulping back milk anyway. This time around her latch is so shallow/poor that she just can't get a letdown (and it doesn't help that I feel milked dry by the pump! I try to latch her before pumping, and I am producing more milk than she takes in a day, but I feel soft and I hardly leak at all! It seems early for that!).
On a brighter note, we are getting about 6 hours of sleep total at night. That is way better than a few days ago. So despite the issues, we are falling into some semblance of new normal, I guess :) Oh and I weighed myself yesterday and I'm down over 30 pounds, which is typical for me in the first week - I retain a LOT of water during pregnancy and finally got my normal feet back just yesterday after an entire day in bed skin to skin with the baby. I have about 16 to go to get to pre-pregnancy weight (and then, oh, like another 50 or so to get to a lifetime goal! :P)