What to do? (Hair Related)

[illumini]

I have to cut my ds's hair. We live in Florida and it's getting too hot for how long it is. Plus dh is tired of ds being called a girl (doesn't bother me as much). We've never cut his hair and are both on opposite sides as to what to choose. So I thought I would open it up to all of you to see your opinions.

His hair is straight and fine, but there's a lot of it. Just like mine. There is a definite part and cowlick. We won't be able to fight it! :-p


Here's a kinda blurry front view: sorry!


And another front view:

And back view:

So hit me with what you think would look best on him. Thanks!




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[illumini]

Ack! Not sure why the pictures are so small. I can try to upload them later if needed.


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[kawa kamuri]

I think he's perfect as is.

[illumini]

Originally Posted by kawa kamuri 

I think he's perfect as is.

He sweats too much to keep it at the length it is at. I wish we could. I know we need to at least remove some length from the back.

[Chamomile Girl]

If he has lots of hair he is going to sweat regardless of the length. In fact, if it gets long enough you can put it up...so heat doesn't seem like a great reason for a hair cut to me. But this is coming from someone who was pretty devastated at how different DS looked after his first haircut...he didn't look like a cutie baby anymore but like a little boy. And I did NOT like it . So I've decided to never, ever cut his hair again. And now that I have decided that DH is bugging me to "just cut his bangs to get them out of his eyes". No...he can wear a hair clip.

[illumini]

Originally Posted by Chamomile Girl 

If he has lots of hair he is going to sweat regardless of the length. In fact, if it gets long enough you can put it up...so heat doesn't seem like a great reason for a hair cut to me. But this is coming from someone who was pretty devastated at how different DS looked after his first haircut...he didn't look like a cutie baby anymore but like a little boy. And I did NOT like it . So I've decided to never, ever cut his hair again. And now that I have decided that DH is bugging me to "just cut his bangs to get them out of his eyes". No...he can wear a hair clip.

We are a 2 yes's, one no family. Dh has said no to hair ties and hair clips. I respect his wishes.

I guess I should say please disregard the reasons behind cutting his hair. We have both agreed to do it but we need help with the style. Thanks!

[Chamomile Girl]

Ok, so its more of a gender identity thing. You should modify your opening post though, because a lot of folks don't read beyond that before they respond.

So IME the style should reflect how often you want to have to get it cut because baby hair grows fast. Lightning fast
If you get a cut longish cut its probably going to need to be recut in three months or so. Here is what I mean:

Right after his hair cut three months ago:


His hair a couple of days ago:





When I was a kid all the boys got "summer cuts" where their hair would be basically buzzed and then would have grown out to a "respectable" length when school was ready to start again. Do people still do that?

[illumini]

I'm not being obstinate but I have to say that this really has very little to do with gender norms or such. I' m really struggling to express myself properly so please bear with me.

We (meaning my dh and I) discussed this at length. Ultimately we decided that for his comfort we need to let go of the urge to keep it long. I want it long and had expected to use hair clips and such. We tried but they bother my ds. He doesn't like tags on clothes or pants with anything but a stretchy waist band either.

My dh (sahd) noticed these things and we decided that his comfort level is more important than aesthetics. Therefore my ds's wardrobe is strictly Tshirts (no tags) and stretchy waistband shorts. We also noticed that his hair is definitely beginning to bother him, mainly on the back of his neck. So again we are altering the original plan to better suit Ds's current needs.

I'm not afraid od trimming every now and then at home. In fact we'd prefer it as dh already cuts his own hair at home. We just can't decide what would look best on him and wanted a little visual starting point. Thank you.

[zebra15]

how about just a little trim up. IDK if there is such a thing as a style at this age.  when DS was that little I just got him a trim aka baby haircut.

[SpiderMum]

With my kids I will leave their hair alone will they have a preference OR til it starts to bother them. So if it's making them hot or getting in their face and seems to annoy them, I'll cut it, but otherwise leave it alone. I'd probably just do a pony tail if it makes him hot, but you could just trim it. He has a lot more hair at his age than my daughter did.

[ssh]

I'd trim all the way around, maybe a little shorter than Chamomile Girls' DSs when it was first cut. With bangs you have to trim them about every 5 weeks or they have hair in their eyes. You could probably keep the back hairline around his neck trimmed pretty easy too once it's cut.

[mbhf]

Personally, I would just do the standard "little boy" haircut. It looks nice, it's easy to keep neat, and it doesn't keep them hot. I resisted the "little boy haircut" for a long long time, but it's really so cute and so so easy to deal with. My boys go a little bit shorter during the summer because of the heat.

[4evermom]

I like nice layered haircuts on little boys.  I'm not a fan of bangs and bowl cuts.  OP, I'd attempt a version of your own hairstyle on him.  That would be super cute.  But if he's sensitive, cutting his hair might be problematic, too.  Haircuts drive my ds crazy, but so does long hair.  I tend to just snip a bit here and there to get it out of his eyes and off his back.  He hates wet hair on his back.  Instead of hair clips, you could try headbands, like terrycloth athletic ones.  They look boyish but are more comfortable.  Not that my ds liked them, either. 

[scottishmommy]

Are you willing to pay someone else to cut it? I started getting DDs hair cut when she was 2, and it made such a huge difference. The professional got it to a good working point, and I trim it here and there. Straight, fine hair is the hardest to cut. If he had some curls you could probably just chip away until it looks good.

[Tjej]

Yeah, with how straight and fine it is, it could be a tough job. 

I suggest a short boy cut - it'll take a while to grow out, it's cute.  Maybe some short bangs as a part of it. 

I tried that with my DS at about 2.  HOWEVER, I have grown it out again since because I do prefer the younger look of longer hair.

Tjej

[beenmum]

Are you looking to go funky at all?

My boys have long hair, but we have done faux hawks, mohawks and then shaved the sides and left the middle long.

[Super~Single~Mama]

I would say go with a short boy cut.  My ds has super fine blond hair (he gets it from me - hairline and all) and my ex takes him to get it cut occasionally, and he does it super short.  It takes a long time before it needs to be cut again (my hair grows slowly too....he's basically my look alike).

It DID take some getting used to, and the first time it was cut I was pretty devastated that he didn't look like a baby anymore, but I do like the haircut as it looks very nice on him.

[Lisa1970]

He is sooo cute! I have no suggestions on hair cut though.

[ameliabedelia]

I would probably just trim it all around and do a bowl cut, but I love bowl cuts on little boys.  I think they're super cute and pretty easy to maintain/trim.

[illumini]

Thank you for the advice everyone. I finally just did it and while I'm not the happiest person about having to do it, I think the cut looks good at least. Oh and apparently the only time I can get my ds to sit still enough to take a picture is when he is wrapped up! :-)






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