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HAPPY MOTHER's DAY LADIES!!!
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Annabelle- Hope craigslist sent some money your way!!

 

Sharita- I'm having the same day! DD1 is being uber clingy and whiny. Thankfully its almost bed time for all 3 of them :) Oh and I keep having that same pinching in my cervix feeling too.

 

 

So my day started with another rousing edition of "What the hell did the kids get into today?" with appearances by the bowl of pudding powder mixed with water and microwaved into oblivion (had to throw said bowl out. It was a goner) and the $30 video game purchased on DH xbox live account that's NON-REFUNDABLE. Most people hear this and say "You should put up baby gates." I laugh. Hard. And then harder. Because we have homemade baby gates. My children are CIA material. Every single gate/barrier we've bought/made they've figured out OR gotten around. Currently there is a 4.5 ft tall gate across the hallway to keep them in their bedroom/playroom area. My oldest found a small knot hole that he sticks his toe in and pulls himself up and over the gate (I watched him do it). He then can open it for his brother to get out. I'm simply at a loss.

 

DH took the boys to our friend's house so he could work on raking their leaves (this has been a 3 week project and if he hadn't already been paid I would tell him to forget about it.) So me and DD1 hung around the house. I cleaned the ENTIRE kitchen and washed every dish. I swept what I could of the floor and sifted the puppies litter so they could potty freely again (they do really well unless it gets over full of poopy and then they start going under the kitchen table.) Washed some random laundry because I'm tired of the piles of dirty clothes so I just keep throwing whatever I find in the washing machine. I made a gallon of sweet tea and I fried up a package of hamburger (I think it was like 2 lbs) and split it between Burger Mac and Shepherd's Pie for dinner. Now we'll have leftovers for lunch tomorrow :) Oh and I made a bowl of pudding (of which will be consumed after the minions go to bed!) since the package was sitting open on the table.

 

OK so this one's gonna be totally TMI *Warning Warning TMI Alert* but it's too funny not to share.

 

DH got a little frisky before work so we snuck in the bedroom and locked the door and DTD. Well he grabbed my panties and put them down there to clean up/contain the mess while I got up and I told him to hand me his dirty shirt instead because it was bigger, which he does. I walk to the bathroom to go potty and shower and I put the shirt in the hamper and sit on the potty to pee. When I stand up and turn around there's something in the toilet and I have a small panicky moment until I realize...it's my panties ROTFLMAO.gifyeah I totally forgot about them...OOPs. needless to say DH and I had a nice laugh in the shower before he went to work.


Sold nothing yet, oh well. 

 

Totalling LOLing at your what the hell did the kids do today. Had exact same experience above, in fact we no longer have a microwave b/c they blew it up and set it on fire two years ago. On Thursday I took 3 children shopping and left my twins babysitting the little ones. While they were making lunch Finnian and Eiley got into the flour and were covered head to toe, so was the kitchen covered.

 

And the TMI was hilarious!

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Warning, very grumpy vent to follow.  So DH and I share custody of our 4 kids.  Then I have 1 and other on the way with current DH.  Ex gets them more than I do unfortunately though as he got "residential custody" and I only get them every other weekend.  He left me with no money as he controlled it all and then I had to go in unrepresented in court and was living with my mom at the time and didn't have bedrooms for them all etc so he got the majority though its technically listed as joint.  Anyway so you think on mothers day, hed be less than the evil a-hole he is.  But no, his girlfriend (which he quickly got engaged to after our divorce was final) has been living there playing mommy to my kids.  She is nice to them and thats wonderful, it could be worse, however, she is so insecure that she wont let DH and I just work things out on our own or make scheduling decisions or anything I am only allowed to talk to her.  Yep.  He wont even answer his phone if he isnt with her but will call me back when she is around so it can be on speaker so she can monitor.  Every week it is always something with them drama wise.  Nothing can be easy and we cant all just get along they are always calling and complaining about something I am not doing right as a mom. 

 

Anyway, So today, he wont let me get them until after they all go to church as a family, and when they get here, I get all the papers they made in sunday school but my daughter tells me the actual crafts and flowers she made in school went to his girlfriend.  I asked him why a woman who isnt even their step mom who gets to see my kids every single day when I don't gets all that special stuff that should be for their actual mom.  He said it was my daughters decision.  She is 7, comeon, I understand she saw her first upon bringing it home and didn't even think about it but you would think he would suggest she save at least one thing for me, her actual mama.  I asked her and she said "A" commented on it so much and hinted that she wanted it so she gave it to her.  I did all I could not to make my daughter feel bad as she is just so sweet and wants to please everyone I know she doesn't understand.  I asked her if next time, maybe we could give one thing her "A" and one to me because it was such a special day for me and the stuff she makes means so much to me.  I could tell she was afraid she hurt my feelings though but she is okay now.

 

No matter how I look at it, I jsut can't get over that his girlfriend gets MY mothers day stuff when she already gets my kids more than I do. I really hate those two sometimes and how they talk so poorly about me in front of my kids and they come back and tell me when as much as I hate him when they complain about him, I take up for him as that is their dad.  I guess not all of us are mature enough to put our kids' feelings above our own. Or how the man I had to leave for being an abusive bully got to keep my kids.  Of course, if life was fair, I wouldn't be stuck in a two bdr apt and not able to afford to take him back to court to get my babies.  I hate how though I walked away he still gets to bully me like he did while we were married but does it through my kids now.  If he is pissed at me, he threatens to not let me see them etc. 

 

I am determined not to let it ruin my mothers day.  He dropped them off and I got them for a few hours anyway.  Ugh, whatever. 

 

Happy mothers day to all you wonderful mamas!!!!

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Sharita, that really sucks! :( Your DD sounds like a real sweetie, though.

 

My Mother's Day was a bit... ehh. By the time we got back from church we were in a rush to ice the carrot cake and clean the house so MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, their two kids, and DH's grandmother could come over. DH is re-entering the induction phase of Atkins after a lapse over Easter, so was in a ghastly mood (apparently this happens on day 3 of entering ketosis). Given that I didn't particularly want to be catering for his mother on Mother's Day, I wasn't too impressed, and at one point threatened to leave him to entertain them and go elsewhere. But we got through that, and they all showed up (MIL and FIL didn't bring any food... hmmph), and we had an OK afternoon.

 

Anyway, DH seemed to realise at some point that this wasn't exactly a fun day of relaxation for me. So tonight we're going out for dinner. Sans DD, which seems kind of odd for a Mother's Day celebration, but it'll be a lot easier!

 

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Smokering - I'm glad your baby shower went well. Do you have any cake pics you'd like to share?

Our camera's still AWOL, but I can ask my sister if she took any photos at the party. It wasn't the most glamorous cake ever, but yummy. Three tiers of lemon cake sandwiched with lemon curd, and then a lemon curd-cream cheese icing. And then I made pale blue polka dots in different sizes out of fondant and popped them all over the cake. Which looked cute enough, except they kept trying to slide down the sides of the cake. Grrr. There was HEAPS left over so we ended up eating a bunch of it the next day at church for morning tea.

 

My little sister also made some cute cupcakes using jelly beans and dots of icing to make little baby feet on top. Very neat! :)

 

Well, I have very little planned for this week. I need to buy some loose pregnancy tea herbs... go to Spotlight for fabric and thread... check out our local op shop for stretchy fabric... make myself some nursing PJs for after birth... meet the backup midwife... get DD's hair cut... and plan our trip to Auckland. Oh, and we have to get the car WOFed. Forgot about that. That means I won't have it Tuesday or Wednesday. OK, that means I should do a bunch of errands today. Good to know!

 

Also, this pregnancy insomnia is KILLING me! I swear I was awake for 3 hours last night, from about 2 to 5. I kept thinking about labour. :p Then when I did sleep, I had weird dreams in which I was sharing a hotel suite with heaps of other people and pregnant women, and these two teen mothers wanted to use the birth tubs, and I kept trying to explain to them that they weren't in labour yet and sitting in the tubs wouldn't actually induce labour, and other people wanted to use the bathrooms, etc, but they wouldn't listen to me. And then I got sick of being pregnant so I decided to go ahead and fill up a birth tub too ('cause of course, that makes sense), but a rich, snobby couple kept making me get out to fetch them napkins and snacks and things. It was very odd... and not at all relaxing.

 

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Also, this pregnancy insomnia is KILLING me! I swear I was awake for 3 hours last night, from about 2 to 5.



This happens to me most nights!  I get up in the morning and try to do things, but I end up dragging most of the morning because I'm so sleepy.  The few times I've mentioned it to friends they all say something along the lines of "it's the baby preparing you for waking up at night!", which they seem to think is hilarious.  eyesroll.gif

 

Also, I don't know whether to thank you or grumble at you for introducing me to I Am Baker.  orngtongue.gif  So many delicious-looking things, and I don't even like cake!  I guess I could always make them and send them to work with DH... He'd earn brownie points, and I'd get to play with frosting without feeling obligated to eat it.  Win-win, right?

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Also, this pregnancy insomnia is KILLING me! I swear I was awake for 3 hours last night, from about 2 to 5. I kept thinking about labour. :p Then when I did sleep, I had weird dreams in which I was sharing a hotel suite with heaps of other people and pregnant women, and these two teen mothers wanted to use the birth tubs, and I kept trying to explain to them that they weren't in labour yet and sitting in the tubs wouldn't actually induce labour, and other people wanted to use the bathrooms, etc, but they wouldn't listen to me. And then I got sick of being pregnant so I decided to go ahead and fill up a birth tub too ('cause of course, that makes sense), but a rich, snobby couple kept making me get out to fetch them napkins and snacks and things. It was very odd... and not at all relaxing.

 

 

I am so in that same boat! I haven't hardly slept at all for the past few nights and it's really awful. My dreams are bizarre and wake me up. My mouth gets too dry and I have to wake up to take drinks of water. I have to pee every 2 hours so then that wakes me up. I can't get comfortable. And for some odd reason I keep getting songs stuck in my head that will replay through my dreams ALL FREAKING NIGHT LONG and it's so disturbing to me that it keeps me from sleeping! I'm pretty sure I'll be taking some Benadryl tonight so I can totally shut my brain OFF and get some sleep.
 

 

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Also, I don't know whether to thank you or grumble at you for introducing me to I Am Baker.  orngtongue.gif  So many delicious-looking things, and I don't even like cake!  I guess I could always make them and send them to work with DH... He'd earn brownie points, and I'd get to play with frosting without feeling obligated to eat it.  Win-win, right?

Yeah, I've never been a huge cake person either, but now I keep wanting to build six-layer ones! I love the look of tall cakes. Hard to cut, though... Isn't her hydrangea cake gorgeous? I should make one for Mum sometime, she loves hydrangeas. Need to get some more piping tips and a decent-sized piping bag, though. My piping bags in the past have tended to go mouldy and smell, so now I usually just make disposable ones out of baking paper; but that only works for small quantities.

 

I used to make baking to send to DH's work to sell in the tearoom. Not cakes, usually: muffins or brownies or occasionally fudge, for $1-$2 a pop. They were pretty popular and it was nice to get all the compliments, although I don't think I made much of a profit. I got a few cake decorating/baking gigs from it, though. But now DH works from home, so! Then I was bartering baked goods for raw milk from DH's best friend's brother, but he switched farms and decided he couldn't supply me any more. Apparently he still raves about my chocolate chip cookies, so I've told DH's friend to keep reminding him that he can reopen the deal at any time. :p I miss my raw milk!

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Oh ladies... I am still there on the no sleeping thing. Sometimes (after night and nights of no sleep..) I can stay up until about 12, take a Melatonin, and then sleep in the guest bedroom and get decent sleep. But other than that-- I have to MAKE myself get up and take a shower to get going or else I will lay on the couch grumpy, watching DD play all day. 

 

Maybe when the baby comes I will be so exhausted that sleep will happen...every two hours and when DD isn't awake... and DH is home. <-- Oh geez...

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I am having trouble sleeping too. For the last week or so, I have been getting up between 6-10 times a night to pee. Yes, that's right, 6-10 times. I try to limit my fluid intake after 7pm, but it is getting increasingly hard to do that as I am hungry and thirsty ALL THE TIME!! I keep almonds on my nightstand because I wake up so often at night that I need to eat.

Sharita, that sucks, mama. I have so many friends that are currently or recently involved in messy divorces and it is just so frustrating and painful. Big hugs, mama.

Hope everyone had a great weekend!
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Sharita I am so sorry that you're having to deal with that awful custody stuff. It sounds like your ex's girlfriend is a total control freak. I'm glad you got to spend at least a few hours with your kids though. I am thankful every day that I don't have to mess with all that visitation and custody stuff with my ex-husband. Of course, it also means that he hasn't seen my kids in over 9 years and they have absolutely NO idea who he is... but there are benefits to that as well.

 

 

I took a Benadryl last night because I just could NOT go another night without sleeping. I'm feeling about 100% better this morning. I only had to get up once to pee instead of the minimum 5 times, and my weird dreams didn't bother me at all. I'm sure I had weird dreams, but I don't remember them so it's all good!

 

This week is looking to be a pretty typical one, which means that it will be busy. However, since I'm done with school all the way it means that I have more free time to take care of all the things that need to get done. Sunday is maternity/family picture day and my second baby shower. I'm so excited!

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Count me in with the insomnia club!

 

Sharita - I'm sorry your ex and his GF are being like that! How awful. :(
 

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My Mother's Day was a bit... ehh. By the time we got back from church we were in a rush to ice the carrot cake and clean the house so MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, their two kids, and DH's grandmother could come over. DH is re-entering the induction phase of Atkins after a lapse over Easter, so was in a ghastly mood (apparently this happens on day 3 of entering ketosis). Given that I didn't particularly want to be catering for his mother on Mother's Day, I wasn't too impressed, and at one point threatened to leave him to entertain them and go elsewhere. But we got through that, and they all showed up (MIL and FIL didn't bring any food... hmmph), and we had an OK afternoon.

 

Anyway, DH seemed to realise at some point that this wasn't exactly a fun day of relaxation for me. So tonight we're going out for dinner. Sans DD, which seems kind of odd for a Mother's Day celebration, but it'll be a lot easier!

 

Our camera's still AWOL, but I can ask my sister if she took any photos at the party. It wasn't the most glamorous cake ever, but yummy. Three tiers of lemon cake sandwiched with lemon curd, and then a lemon curd-cream cheese icing. And then I made pale blue polka dots in different sizes out of fondant and popped them all over the cake. Which looked cute enough, except they kept trying to slide down the sides of the cake. Grrr. There was HEAPS left over so we ended up eating a bunch of it the next day at church for morning tea.

 

My little sister also made some cute cupcakes using jelly beans and dots of icing to make little baby feet on top. Very neat! :)

 

 

I'm sorry your Mother's Day was kinda lame. Catering to the MIL would bug the heck out of me. I hope dinner was nice at least!

 

I'd love to see pics if you have any. That cake sounds sooo good. I love baking.

 

We had another crummy weekend, sick AGAIN, stuck inside with beautiful sunny weather outside. I was trying to figure out why I keep getting sick, then it occurred to me - I'm always at the freaking doctor's office for midwife appts. No wonder I keep catching stuff!

 

I've been having a lot of AF-like cramps (contractions?) over the last few days. It puts me on edge, because despite what everyone says, you don't always know whether or not it's the real thing until the contractions either get stronger or go away. I never had cramps like these until I was actually in labour with DD1. I wonder if this means I'm going to going into labour vaguely soon-ish?

 

It's so weird having this uncertainty. I could have a baby by next week, or I could have it in 5 weeks. If only I had a crystal ball...

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Anyone else been over to the new trading post? I just posted and it was super cool! I like it a lot better than the old. I wasn't even aware that they had changed it haha

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insomia here too.  I will be so tired I can't hold my eyes open in the livingroom so I will make my way to the bedroom, get all comfy, then can't sleep.  2-3 hours later I am still up.  I take benedryl some tried meletonin, midwife suggested valerian root, but I haven't tried it yet.  I have the weirdest side effect from melatonin and benedryl though, They do work to make me drowsy and be able to shut my brain down but then I am up with restless leg syndrome.  Never had it before this pregnancy or before this stage.  It could just be a huge coincidence but it only happens the nights I take a sleep aid.  I get super drowsy, then get that weird feeling in my legs and hav eto move them, over and over again until I am even more miserable than if I just was wide awake because now I am actually sleepy but legs wwont let me sleep.  I can't win, lol.  By the way, the its even more strange that I had been taking this stuff occasionally before this point and never had this happen, its just a recent thing.  Never happens unless I take something to sleep though. Weird!

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When I wake in the night and cannot return to sleep I am using Wishgarden tincture Sleepy Nights for pregnancy. It seems to work most nights.


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Benadryl makes my RLS way worse. Like, crazy spastic movements. It's so weird! The melatonin by itself generally doesn't do anything but occasionally allow my mind to shut off. I wish the Benadryl worked :(
 

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insomia here too.  I will be so tired I can't hold my eyes open in the livingroom so I will make my way to the bedroom, get all comfy, then can't sleep.  2-3 hours later I am still up.  I take benedryl some tried meletonin, midwife suggested valerian root, but I haven't tried it yet.  I have the weirdest side effect from melatonin and benedryl though, They do work to make me drowsy and be able to shut my brain down but then I am up with restless leg syndrome.  Never had it before this pregnancy or before this stage.  It could just be a huge coincidence but it only happens the nights I take a sleep aid.  I get super drowsy, then get that weird feeling in my legs and hav eto move them, over and over again until I am even more miserable than if I just was wide awake because now I am actually sleepy but legs wwont let me sleep.  I can't win, lol.  By the way, the its even more strange that I had been taking this stuff occasionally before this point and never had this happen, its just a recent thing.  Never happens unless I take something to sleep though. Weird!



 

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Sharita - What a heartbreaking situation you're in. I'm so sorry that you must deal with all of this. ((HUGS))

 

Add me to the non-sleeping boat. And I'm a complete grump about it too. Last night was especially terrible. I could not get comfortable. I tossed and turned incessantly, peed every few hours, and just kept looking at the clock. It was terrible. It's awful when you know you have to get up the next day and there's nothing you can do to sleep. My first daycare kiddo arrives at 6:45am. I'm sure my parents must think I'm a horrible slob right now as I sleep in until the last possible second, throw clothes on, and pull my hair back to start my day. I have an extra kiddo today due to drop in. So the grand total is 7 (including my DS). It's a struggle all day just to keep up and keep my moodiness/exhaustion from coming out too much. But I just keep trying to tell myself that I'm in the home stretch. I remember after DS was born feeling much better rested with a newborn than I felt during the third trimester of pregnancy. I'm really hoping that's the case this time around, but we'll see. With my almost four year old bouncing around nonstop, I won't exactly get all of those peaceful naps with my newborn like I had with him either.

 

On a less whiny note, I got my garden in over the weekend. I was a little overzealous with buying my seeds, so I didn't plant everything I wanted to plant. But I am just happy that the plants are in the ground. I have tomatoes, cherry tomatoes, peppers (a couple of different kinds), spinach, lettuce, and arugula. I still need to lay my paper down and mulch, but at least stuff is in the ground.

 

We're still chipping away at DS's superhero bedroom. My parents came over last week and painted trim for me. My mom is coming over sometime this week to do the second coat on the trim. Bless her! DH is done with finals after Wednesday and then he'll have time to actually help for a bit. He's going to spray paint and assemble DS's bunk bed, and paint the dresser (that I still need to find).

 

I've at least started my basket of stuff that I'm supposed to have compiled for my home birth, but I still have a ways to go. But there is a basket set aside and there's a few things in it. That makes me feel a bit better.

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hey ladies! come on over to the may, week 2 thread :)

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