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post #41 of 157

Wake_up your shower sounds like it was fun! I like the showers that are sitting around and chatting while we eat. I'm really not big on the games and such. And i have a serious love affair with HPB. I would probably spend all of my time and money there if I could. Seriously.

 

I'm procrastinating a little this morning. I have a final at 11:30, it's now 9:40 and I just got out of the shower. I still need to eat breakfast too. I just want to get these finals OVER with so that I can focus on something other than school for a while. Like my kids and the impending birth and new baby. Plus, studying is taking time away from cleaning things and it's making me cranky. lol

post #42 of 157

hey everyone, i am just able to keep up with the reading here, but not so much on the posting and updating. redface.gif

 

i don't have too much to report. i had a wonderful blessingway on saturday. i feel totally embraced and loved and supported for this birth! its such a great feeling to be so held... i'm reading and re-reading birth stories. meeting with doula this thursday, and she's bringing the emerg. birth kit to leave with us, just in case.

 

i am officially on maternity leave, although i am not quite done with my student reports and birthday verses. i hope to get all that closed up and put away in the next two weeks.

 

in week 36 now, so feels like it could be end of may for me. it is still hard to believe, and sometimes i get that sudden realization that i'm going to have a little person on the outside, and it feels so crazy! i've been feeling really well, nothing to complain about, so i'm just going along like i'll be pregnant forever....

 

hugs to everyone. may the aches and pains fade away and all the checklists get finished!

xo

 

post #43 of 157

Not too much to report here...just amazed at the cold weather we are still getting here in NM.  Since we've just moved from Okinawa, Japan where it is hot and humid almost year round, I am a little in shock blush.gif.  However, it is nice to not be suffocating in this stage of pregnancy thumb.gif.  I am 36 wks Friday, but I'm pretty sure I'm about a week ahead so we'll see!  I have never been so anxious to meet our LO.  I've always been excited, but this time I feel like I just can't wait!  Which of course means she'll probably come at 41 or so weeks but oh well winky.gif.

 

Congrats to all who are cleaning out (and make money doing it!) and landing awesome deals!  That's always so much fun.  I have a WONDERFUL friend who is shipping me my FAVORITE cloth diapers from Japan since ours were lost in the move.  Plus some awesome little kimono outfits that are so awesome for newborns.  My birth pool is on its way, and we splurged on a really nice one (split 3 ways between sisters made it an easy choice :)).  And, I asked a friend of mine to knit me a new wool soaker (because I can't knit) and she found out she's having a boy, so she sent me ALL of her girl ones!!  Made my week!  Needless to say, this time around I just STOKED about everything!! 

 

Oh, and Heathenmom...I NEVER had BH early until babe number 3.  They started at least 6 weeks early so I thought for sure she would arrive early - - HA!  She was my only to come AFTER her EDD :)  Babes and our bodies are so funny!  Just thought I'd share because I remember getting so frustrated because I was having SO many hard ones and NOTHING was happening irked.gif.  That's my fill for today :)

post #44 of 157
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Not too much to report here...just amazed at the cold weather we are still getting here in NM.  Since we've just moved from Okinawa, Japan where it is hot and humid almost year round, I am a little in shock blush.gif.  However, it is nice to not be suffocating in this stage of pregnancy thumb.gif.  


I have sitting by the fire, it is cold in the house here in the east mountains. It is going to be warming up more each day. I cannot wait for hot myself. I am always cold.

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Oy, today has been good! I haven't been able to say that in a long time!

I got so much done this morning. I pulled out all the newborn and little bitty diapers, clothes and nifty accessories and got everything washed and organized. I moved the baby dresser into our bedroom so I can have it nearby and dragged my dresser out to the porch. I went through DS's and DD's dressers and took out everything that doesn't fit and put it all into the appropriate storage bins, got their (washed and ready to have a home) summer clothes into the dressers, put away the major winter accessories, and got all the birth supplies into one box. Phew! That's more than I have done in the last 3 months!! I guess the nesting has begun thumb.gif

I am looking forward to moving on to some fun baby projects!

Jenni, good luck with finals! I will be thinking about you!

BHappy, I have always wanted a mother's blessing. I am so happy that you got to have great one!! I have a lot of friends, but nobody I am close enough with who would think to do something like that. We are Jewish and don't have baby showers, so I always just wanted a little party of well-wishes and memories.

DH and the kids are going to take a ride with me this afternoon to pick up a few little things for the new baby. It will be the first time I will get to buy him something so I am really looking forward to it! Yay garage sale money!!!
post #46 of 157

First final went well, I think. I should know by Thursday afternoon what my grade was. The good news is that to maintain my current grade in the class I only need to get a 70 on the exam. I'm pretty sure I did better than that. We shall see...  The next, and last final, for this semester is on Thursday morning. I'm sooooo ready to be done!

 

My friend/next door neighbor is going to do maternity photos for me on the 15th and I'm so excited! We have a huge and gorgeous botanic garden here with all kinds of different areas and that is where we'll do our photo shoot. Now I just need to come up with some ideas of what to wear...  I wish I had a long flowy pretty dress to wear like the one that MaryE had in her photos. Luckily most of my non-maternity clothes still fit me so I think I can cobble some stuff together that will be cute. I welcome any ideas that you ladies may have! I've never done maternity pics before so this is another first (and last) for me.

 

My friend next door also has a friend who is a professional photographer. The photographer's name is Emily and she's trying to get more business drummed up and add to her portfolio. She wants to do birth photos so she's offering a FREE birth photography session! I'm not sure that she really understands how much time this may take, but I'm glad to be her guinea pig. :)  That gets rid of my worry about who will man the camera because I for sure want pics of the birth and immediate postpartum period.

 

 

Bhappy your blessingway sounds lovely! I've thought about doing one, but I think we're going to work some of those aspects into the 2nd baby shower on the 15th.

 

post #47 of 157

Jenni-- I'm so excited for you to have maternity and birth photos!! I toyed around with the idea of hiring a photographer to take pics, but since I recently bought a nice camera, I will task my DH and MIL with that. 

P.S.-- I got that dress at Old Navy-- it's not maternity, but I find that I can just size up on maxi dresses while pregnant. They also have ALOT of those style dresses at Target! It made me feel better to have a special dress to wear "just" for those pictures of me and baby boy :)  *** one of my sisters always goes on a shopping spree and buys super pretty clothes for her photo shoots with her family and kids, she brings along clothes pins-- to make the fit perfect, and keeps the tags on all the clothes--- she returns them afterward! hahahahaha

 

P.S. I don't know if this baby is going to stay in there until June 15th. I sure hope he does though. I've been so achey and crampy lately. I'm hoping that it is just the end of pregnancy and not the start of labor!   <--- And I hope that I have jinxed myself so he will stay in for another month :)

post #48 of 157

Well, that's it.  I am done with going to the store.  DH will have to bite the bullet and do the grocery shopping next time we need something.  I always have severe pregnancy induced postural hypotention.  I am fine as long as I am moving and walking (except that irritates my already pulled round ligaments and causes increased braxton hicks which makes walking around a store a pain, ) however, when I stop to look at something or standing in the check out line, it hits me.  I start getting cold sweats, turn white as a ghost, and head starts tingling, tunnel vision and ears ringing.  Yep, that good old, "Im about to faint" feeling.  So I have to either sit (which usually there are no chairs in a check out line, lol) or lean all the way over my buggy and take some deep breaths which is hard because I end up short of breath during these episodes.  I try and avoid drawing too much attention as I am kinda shy naturally but usually someone sees me and I guess I look like I am about to keel over so they usually ask if I am alright. 

 

I have these spells every pregnancy and it starts around the 2nd trimester (though last time it started 2 months in) and I have never been able to be properly diagnosed with anything.  If it occured upon standing then went away as I was up it would make more sense but its the opposite.  I am find standing as long as I am moving, its when I have been standing over 5 minutes and have stood still as little as 2 minutes without moving.  Walking or moving helps but when you are stuck in a long check out line you are limited.  My last OB last pregnancy thought it was either cardiac or neurological.  we ruled out cardiac as I wore the 24 hour monitor and had a few episodes during and it recorded nothing abnormal with the heart.  All other Drs dismissed it but said it wasn't normal.

 

Anyway, so it just gets worse and worse until i deliver and I am done this time around.  I am so tired of almost passing out in the middle of the grocery store only to have to basically put my head almost between my knees (if I could reach, lol) while sweating and turning white.  Embarrasing as well as draining me of my entire life-force.  However, this was my only connection to the outside world as I barely get out as it is now.  Can you imagine?  My only getting out of the house is a good old trip to the grocery store, lol.  Imma go crazy now!  Thankfully my mom is back from being out of state for almost 2 yrs and now I have another human to go and visit.  AFter quitting work with last pregnancy, I lost touch with all of my friends and they have all been so busy finishing school, getting promoted to a much more time consuming position at work, and another moved so I am back to where I started after moving here, very short on friends, or even aquaintances, :(

 

As far as the pregnancy goes, everyday I think my tummy can't get any bigger but it does.  Funny story... I get extra hairy when pregnancy, I think we all kinda do, but I was just feeling extra ungroomed the last few weeks and though I don't regularly groom "that private area" I knew I would appreciate it when I was dealing with that heavy PP flow of lochia so I decided to shave it all off and just be nice and neat for a while.  I put it off for weeks but today decided to go for it.  I knew getting it done would be a challenge since the belly is so huge but I had no idea just how much.

 

I first used a personal trimmer for the majority since it was so long I could have started dreads, lol.  That was a challenge in itself.  You need to be able to see regaurdless of what method of hair removal you are using.  I have no full length mirror in my apartment jsut the one above the sink in the bathroom.  I tried propping one leg on the counter, still the belly hung in the way.  I sat on the counter with feet in the sink so that I was right in front of the mirror, still couldn't get around belly.  I got in the tub, decided I did all I could with the trimmer and would now use the razor.  I was semi-reclined and STILL couldnt see.  I ended up having to do it by feel.  I guess I got most of it and yes I feel soooo much cleaner and better.  I think I even managed not to cut myself.

 

I dont get it though, I usually did some grooming close to my duedate in the past pregnancies and didn't have so much trouble.  I had a big wall mirror that I propped against the wall infront of me while I sat on the edge of the toilet and could groom that way.  Wasn't an option thiss time but not sure that would have worked even.  My belly just seems so much lower and in the way this time.  It is just having over my vagina as huge as it is, lol.

 

Well, that was my funny moment of the day.  I imagined what I must have looked like struggling to get into a workable position to shave there, especially when I hopped my very pregnant butt on our tiny little bathroom counter to get closer to the mirror, haha.

 

If I wasn't so self-conscious, I may have resorted to paying someone to do it for me like all those women that get the waxing down there.  Well, probably not still, I can't imagine how bad that must hurt.  No thanks.  Ill keep my jungle. 

 

 

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I am fine as long as I am moving and walking (except that irritates my already pulled round ligaments and causes increased braxton hicks which makes walking around a store a pain, ) however, when I stop to look at something or standing in the check out line, it hits me.  I start getting cold sweats, turn white as a ghost, and head starts tingling, tunnel vision and ears ringing.  Yep, that good old, "Im about to faint" feeling.  So I have to either sit (which usually there are no chairs in a check out line, lol) or lean all the way over my buggy and take some deep breaths which is hard because I end up short of breath during these episodes. 

Whoa - that's EXACTLY what I had for several months out of this pregnancy!! Mine was never diagnosed either. :( They said it wasn't low BP, low iron or GD, and then chucked it in the "too hard" basket. :p

 

The worst for me was the supermarket - in the checkout, like you said, once my "flow" of movement was interrupted - or in places where I was stopping and starting, like in the fabric store. You can't just glide along the aisles in a fabric store, you have to stop every few metres and feel fabric and check out things... and it really wasn't good. I seem to be mostly over it now, but yesterday in the library I had a similar "spell". I think it was the combination of tilting my head to one side (to read the titles), and the stopping-starting thing again. Had to sit down.

 

So anyway... you have my heartfelt sympathies, but it's also kinda cool to find someone who had the exact same symptoms as me! Yay! :p

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Whoa - that's EXACTLY what I had for several months out of this pregnancy!! Mine was never diagnosed either. :( They said it wasn't low BP, low iron or GD, and then chucked it in the "too hard" basket. :p

 

The worst for me was the supermarket - in the checkout, like you said, once my "flow" of movement was interrupted - or in places where I was stopping and starting, like in the fabric store. You can't just glide along the aisles in a fabric store, you have to stop every few metres and feel fabric and check out things... and it really wasn't good. I seem to be mostly over it now, but yesterday in the library I had a similar "spell". I think it was the combination of tilting my head to one side (to read the titles), and the stopping-starting thing again. Had to sit down.

 

So anyway... you have my heartfelt sympathies, but it's also kinda cool to find someone who had the exact same symptoms as me! Yay! :p


I had the same thing during my pregnancy with DS2! It was horrid. I've had the feeling a few times in DD1's pregnancy and a very lesser degree this time, but when it was it's worst OMG. I was soooo worried something was wrong.

 

 

post #51 of 157

This thread is worrying me lol.gif

 

We can't be this close!  I am not ready!  I will never be ready! 

 

We gave notice and are trying to move on June 1st which is cutting it awfully close.  I'm nervous about that but also really set on moving before the baby comes.  Please cooperate Junebaby!  Please don't come out until at least mid June!

 

I doubt we are having a baby shower, noone has mentioned it and I won't ask for one.  I need a lot of stuff but none of it is the kind of thing anyone would buy for me, and we have already either received money or know what has been bought from the parents.  They've been very generous but I still feel like there is a lot we need.  It's funny because I started out thinking we didn't need anything much, and now the list never ends.  I lent out my birthpool planning to get it back in plenty of time but now I am not sure if I will (my fault, not the borrower's) and I am nervous about getting the money together for the birth supplies I wanted... it seems like between moving and buying stuff for baby this is the most expensive month of my life!

post #52 of 157

Oh my goodness you ladies post fast! Between work and home I can barely keep up with what everyone is doing/feeling, let alone update on my status!!! I had my last (I'm pretty sure) ultrasound this afternoon to make sure that my placenta was not too low. At my last U/S baby was transverse and placenta was low, but now that baby's head down the placenta has moved up. So really, really relieved!!! Not sure what my options would have been if it had been low still...

 

I'm at 34w3d and last Friday I started getting this cramping/stabbing pain down in my belly. It was coming every few minutes and lasting about 30 seconds from 1:30am to 6:00am. It stopped when I got up and started moving around. It felt like a cross between stomach flu and menstrual cramps, with the odd stabbing pain straight down my cervix. I've talked to a few ppl/googled it, and it seems that these were contractions. I guess you can get these early with subsequent pregnancies??? I never had one natural contraction with my first, since I was induced, only some mild BH throughout pregnancy.  This time the BH are a little stronger, but nothing much.  Next midwife appointment is Friday, so maybe she'll confirm. Anyhoo, that was not too bad...but I guess they get stronger? 

 

I've had a couple of those sudden "I'm gonna faint" feelings recently, though I don't remember what I was doing when they came on...glad to know I'm not alone!!!  Never had that with my first.

 

We just found out that DH has to go away on training for a week next week, so hopefully baby will cooperate and stay in a couple more weeks. I must say, though, I feel like a house. I'm already bigger than I was at term with my first.  I too decided to clean up "down there" last Saturday because I was supposed to take DD swimming. I just did it by touch and managed to cut myself on both sides. However, I'm too cheap to get a wax right now when I have so many other things to buy, lol. Ditto for pedicures :) Though to be fair, DH did offer to do my pedi...

 

Oh...and we agreed on a name last week. SUPER HAPPY!!!  Not much else going on except we have started house hunting to be closer to my mom and DH's work...that's insane, right??? I know...

post #53 of 157

Sharita I have those same dizzy breathless moments when I'm standing around in lines too! I figured it was just from being pregnant and having lungs squished and vessels compressed. They usually pass after a minute or so, so I've never really worried about it much. I get pretty bad orthostatic hypotension when pregnant so I already have to rise from lying to sitting slow, and from sitting to standing slow, or else I'll get really dizzy and fall over.

 

And the whole grooming thing cracked me up! Mainly because that was me in the shower this morning, going by feel since I can't see anything and there is no way to prop a mirror so that I can see anything. Plus, it would be all backwards and I'd probably slice all my girly bits to pieces... and then have to birth a baby through that. Yikes! I've been shaving down there for so long that I can go by feel without having to look so it's not that much of an issue, but it would be nice to be able to see it!

 

Weliveintheforest, I cannot even imagine trying to move on June 1st! I hope your baby stays put too, so you don't have to deal with a newborn and moving at the same time. Hopefully you'll get lots of help so you can supervise while everyone does the actual moving.

 

Lidia, the stabbing into your cervix sounds more like the baby poking your cervix than contractions. I've never had actual cervical pain during contractions, but I get it all the time during pregnancy because there is a baby who likes to punch my cervix. It feels terrible and I wish he'd stop already!

post #54 of 157

Well, I had that dizziness problem at the beginning of my pregnancy and everyone thought I was crazy and/or making it up. It was SOOOO frustrating!!! I went to the chiro a bunch of times and eventually it stopped---unless I stand still for a long time (but, this happens to me regardless of pregnancy haha) 

Anywho.... I have traded unrelenting leg pain for ridiculous BH and a baby who won't stop punching/kicking my cervix! The BH are waking me up and then of course the pressure makes me feel like I may pee the bed -- haha  This baby is such a stinker!!!!!!! I had none of this with DD....

 

As for the grooming-- It's been all feel for weeks now! This baby is so low that I haven't seen anything down there in forever! I'm sure it looks like a hot mess blush.gif

 

 

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I'm pouty and emotional tonight. DH and I had a long heart to heart a few nights ago, about various things, and tonight was just one of those nights where I feel like everything I poured out to him (which is a lot coming from me, because I tend to internalize EVERYTHING) went in one ear and out the other.

 

Since it's going to eat at me (and keep me sniffling and teary eyed) I'll bust it out here if ya'll don't mind being a sounding board. If you skip it that's a-ok :) I just need to get it out.

 

I've had a very VERY low libido this pregnancy. To the point of almost disgust at the thought. The last few weeks, I've been making a huge effort to not say no at the suggestion of sex right off the bat, because 9 times out of 10 I enjoy it, even if the mood wasn't there previous to initiating. So tonight DH comes home from his new job (4-9:45 at a CiCi's like pizza parlour) and I was finishing up my last episode of Grey's. I paused it and asked him how his night was and got the usual "It was good." and not much else. I told him what I did today and we talked for a few minutes. I told him I wanted to finish up my episode and then asked if he wanted to take a shower with me, to which he agreed. I finished my episode (15 minutes maybe) and he asked me what I wanted to do tonight. I said "I washed towels and clothes so let's take a nice shower and then maybe..." and gave him the you-know-what look. He agreed and I went and got the towels and clothes out of the dryer and headed to our bathroom to shower. He comes in and starts getting undressed and starts going on about wondering where my BIL is (he has our van and was supposed to come home with it today and still hasn't and since we don't have our cells on right now he has no way to call us) and is very moody. He mumbles about being upset we don't have our phones and then mentions his friend invited him over for a smoke (he started smoking black and milds which is a point of contention all on its own) when he got off work. I can already tell at this point that my plans were over. If I didn't say "Oh go ahead and go...blah blah blah" he would have been broody and cranky and silent all night. So I tell him to go, and after barely any hesitation he promises to be back soon (which probably means not before midnight or later) and leaves.

 

I just feel like it's constantly more important for him to go be social with other people, when I'm here making a huge effort to be this affectionate, hang-all-over-him type that he wants me to be. I'm not even mad. Just hurt. Another instance of me throwing wide open the door, to have him shut it in my face. And the saddest thing is I'm nearly positive he doesn't even realize he's doing it.

 

I spent my entire shower crying and have been sitting here for 30 minutes typing all this, a total mess.

post #56 of 157

So, wait a minute, Sarah Lynne, your man turned down sex to go smoke a cigar? Um, yeah, I'd be unenthusiastic about that, too. Hug.

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So, anyone wanna hear my latest worry? :p I feel rather unconfident about Hypnobabies. Maybe "underprepared" is a better word. I NEVER seem to manage practicing eyes-open hypnosis 5 times a day; I skipped a whole week of the CDs recently because the CD player broke; DH has only just gotten around to reading the Birth Partner Guide, and we haven't practiced any mini-scripts or "Relax" cues or anything yet; and, although the Hypnobabies CD insists it doesn't matter, I don't feel particularly "hypnotised" or anaesthetised when I do the CDs. I also stopped listening to the Pregnancy Affirmations ages ago, because they were driving me up the wall; but I'm OK with that. :p

 

Also, I tend to fall asleep while listening to the CDs, because the only way I can justify the time is to do them when DD has her nap. Occasionally I'll make it through to the end of a script before falling asleep myself, but... not usually!

 

Anyway, I'm just worried that it'll all be useless on the day and I'll fall apart and have another traumatic birth. :/ Grrr.

 

Sarah Lynne: That sucks. :( I'd be peeved enough that he took off all evening to smoke - doesn't that mean he left you with the kids?? Not cool...

post #58 of 157

Sarah Lynne I don't think you're out of line in the slightest for being upset. Not only is it really hard to make advances when you are really not feeling it, but to get shot down by your husband because he wants to go smoke just makes it worse! Talking to him might help clarify some things for him. I'm convinced that men cannot read hints and other social cues very well, and that about 98% of them have a mild form of social retardation when it comes to that stuff. Laying it all out there for him may help.

 

post #59 of 157

Sarah--- that sucks so bad! I totally understand your low libido.... sometimes I think it's the worst of all the pregnancy symptoms! Boys are so dumb... they really have no idea what they are doing and even if you tell them they are doing it... they still don't understand!! I made my hubby read the book --"Love and Respect" with me and it really helped me to learn how to say things so that he would "get it" and helped him learn how to listen to me! 

I am an internalizer too...doesn't help us much does it?? 

Hugs to you! And I hope that he will come home and be a big sweetie so that you will forget all about it :) <---works for DH everytime!

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My safe-date is May 15th so weekend after this coming one I'm having my mother come over to help me give the house a really good cleaning....

In the mean time I'm trying to finish up some sewing. I have more fitteds to make, some wrap shirts to make (like the kimono type), some onesies to dye and embellish (to cover up stupid phrases that irk me).....and the BABY QUILT. Oi. A lot to do.

Apparently we forgot to pay rent this month. eyesroll.gif Oh well, pregnancy is a great excuse.
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