Right there with you too!
I've just about given up trying different things to cope with it... none of the "expert's" methods work (NCSS etc.). We've been struggling since about 7 months and it has gotten only marginally better in the last 2 weeks or so.
My DS is a cosleeper too (he sleeps in his crib for the first part of the night but refuses to sleep in there once DH and I go to bed) and for the past week or so I have been leaving and sleeping in our guest room around 2-3 am after nursing DS down. And, miraculously, this seems to work for some reason- DS stays asleep most of the time or only requires DH to pat/shush him down for a couple of minutes! Before, this was the hell-period for me- DS was waking too many times to count and/or continuously nursing until 5 am when he'd be UP for the day. Now I leave the room between 2 & 3 and come back to nurse him around 5 when he gets up and then he actually goes back to sleep until 6 or 7! It's amazing.
But other than this small victory, most nights DS is still waking very frequently every 1 or 2 hours from the time he goes down at 7pm until the time he wakes up. Fun for everyone. I have stopped nursing him down for all of his wakings, and DH is able to pat/bounce/walk him down for a lot of them quite quickly. I do nurse him about every 3 hours though just in case he's thirsty or hungry or really needs some comfort. It's all so tiring though.
This new thing of me leaving in the mornings and the fact that DS refuses to sleep in his crib when we are in the room is (sadly) making us consider moving DS to his own room. He seems to sleep better away from me and I know I sleep better when he's not constantly waking and nursing continuously. Just the 2-3 hours of solid sleep is making such a difference for me... I'm craving more. Maybe it's time for us to make some big changes. We would like to get DS sleeping in his crib by his 1st birthday, he's getting big and moves around a lot more than he used to. He wakes us up and we wake him up too.
Yes, it is SUPPOSED to be a phase that they go through and hopefully this is true.
LittleBirdy, my date I look forward to is his 1 year birthday. We're going on a long summer holiday starting around his birthday and I like to picture myself having a restful, relaxing vacation and SLEEPING AT NIGHT cuddled up with my husband next to me and DS sleeping happily in his own bed. Ahhh... a mama can dream can't she?