Originally Posted by AGreenMum10
"Re: you and your friend's diagnoses. Just want to encourage you both to make sure that you are being handled by doctors who know their sh*t? " -Milkshake
Your protective nature is greatly appreciated, I had a Hysterosalpingography Exam, HSG. It showed that my uterus looked like a bunny rabbit, and My best friend and Cousin is having the same test to see if a Septum is present. But she only wants to prevent pregnancy (for now!)... I know! Why would she want to do that.... Milkshake, if we were having coffee/tea and chatting about this subject face to face I bet we would both have some "fun" notes to compare, sounds like you have been though alot, man o man, I have been through alot too and I am just as protective of getting the right information and diagnostics. I started seeing a new Dr because of all the this stuff, he came highly recommended to me.
First let me say that your cousin sounds hilarious! Lady gadget is a real crack up.
I'm glad that you feel like you have a doc that you're comfortable with, and yes, I have many a story...
I'd like to point you in the direction of this site: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/MullerianAnomalies/
There are a lot of women there with a lot of experience, and you might find it helpful. They have a doctor on the list who specialises in MAs, and if you wish, you can request to have your films reviewed by him for a second opinion - and it's FREE!
I had mine done, and it was very interesting. After years of being misdiagnosed, I finally feel comfortable that I know exactly what is going on in there. As much as I can, anyway.
I know very little about septums and such, because my condition is different, but I know (through that website) that the are soooooooooo many women who are diagnosed as Bicornuate, only to find out after multiple losses, that they do in fact have a septum. It's great that you have had a HSG, which is a step up from an US, but it still comes down to whether the songrapher is experienced enough in mullerian duct anomalies to read the film correctly. I'm sure I sound like a complete pain in the ass by harping on this, but to put it in perspective, I've had three surgeries where (experienced) obstetricians were looking directly at my uterus - and I was still misdiagnosed!!
Originally Posted by miriam_bat_avraham
I'm trying to think of something we can get for her. I thought a new pillowcase with some nice flowers on it, or a photo or two of our ultrasound from a few weeks ago to put on her bulletin board even if she can't see it or understand what it means or even really pay attention when we try to tell her about it. But I'm stuck on anything else. We used to get her new shoes, but she wears special tie shoes now from some sort of adaptive store that I think are intended to be harder for her to take off and also give her more stability when she walks. We can't get her clothes because we just bought the special overalls she needs... I don't know what other things we could get her. Any ideas? Anyone with a disabled family member out there? :\
I have no experience in this area, but I just wanted to say that I like the pillowcase idea. It sounds like it would be really hard to deal with, and it's nice that you guys still care so much.
Originally Posted by LessTraveledBy
Then there is the really, really confusing thing: Most of these little ones will come at short notice and then some days, weeks or months later, will be reunited with the birth parents or found a long term foster home. Meanwhile, there will be lots of visits with the social workers, birth parents, etc. However, if a child will be transfered into long term foster care, we will have the right to ask that we become that family. What this means is that we could potentially end up being the foster family of a baby we picked up at the birthing hospital (without knowing we would end up fostering). Now... Those who have been reading my writings about how we can't afford to adopt internationally, etc., will know what a huge deal this idea is to me. However, here is the problem: My country does not terminate the rights of the parents, so we would be forever fostering, instead of adopting. This means that, if the parents got their act together years later, the child could move back with the bio parents after years with us. Meanwhile, we would be taking this child to church possibly for years (can't stay home alone and we go every Sunday), without the child being able to receive the sacraments,etc.. I also think I would also be afraid to say anything when asked about anything religious, knowing how much of a minority we are in this country. How could I live that way, treating two kids so differently in this matter? I just don't know what to think of all that... I guess it is all too new and time will tell. I am just excited, no matter what, that the social worker was so nice and seemed to think we would be of us to them.
Congrats on taking such a big step. We looked into the very same a year or so ago. Emergency foster care, mainly.
The situation is very similar here in Australia. Their main focus is eventually reuniting familes, and therefore, you may foster a child for years and years, only to send them back to their birth parents. I guess this is ultimately why we decided not to proceed with it.
Maybe we will look at it again in the future, but right now, the thought of handing those children back to a family who (in my eyes) has lost the right to have that child in their life, is way too tough. I also think it is way more unsettling for the child, but that's just IMO.
I totally admire you for being willing to take this on, because you would need so much inner strength. I don't have that in me now. Maybe in the future.
Anyway, I don't understand the stuff about your church? Do you mean that your church would not allow you to include the child in the "ceremonies"? Is there any leeway with this? That child would be part of your family!
As far as discussing religious stuff, I think you need to be honest. Here, they are open to families of all shapes and sizes, and the main focus is values and morals, not personal beliefs. These kind of social workers are trained to detect "issues" anyway, and if you are honest, they can probably offer you some advice. I think what they are really interested in, is providing a safe and stable environment for the child.
Originally Posted by monkeyscience
AFM, I am really excited... I got my progesterone test results today... 19 ng/mL, which is a good result for 6-8 DPO, according to all of the reference ranges I can find. It actually gives me more cause to think I'm pregnant, although it could be an aftereffect of the hCG trigger. I'm feeling better about my decision to not use the progesterone supplements, too. I really think that this is going to work... I hope I'm right!
Woo hoo! Looking good :) Are we almost cycle buddies? I'm 7dpo.
AFM: Today, off to a stupid tupperware party. Guess who will be there? The previously mentioned "friend" who I have major issues with regarding her past termination. Did I mention that she now has a two week old who will also be there? Dammit!
Not only that, but the dumb @$$ has already had the kid admitted to hospital for 2 days because instead of taking her to the doctors when she fell ill, she just bitched about it on FB. Poor kid ended up with a whopping respiritory infection.
Of course I didn't know she would be there when I said I would go, and now it is going to take all my strength to deal with it.
I honestly don't think I will even manage to say hello to her. Should be interesting...