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post #41 of 100

Katroshka - With all she's been through, it may be that she's experiencing supply issues.  It does sound like there is something that might not be right about the breastfeeding that she just may need some more support with.  

post #42 of 100

I tend to agree with the others. I have PLENTY of bf experience and LOVE it but those experiences have been all over the map and different with each baby. I would encourage you to just put all that emotion into your baby because you can never really know another woman's choices, kwim? BTW formula is not the devil in my eyes. I could care or less how someone feeds their baby so long as the baby is happy and healthy.

 

HTH

post #43 of 100
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my guess would be she's experiencing problems that she thinks are normal, but are not. I nearly gave up on breastfeeding DD many times because it was so painful. there were a few days when I cried through just about every feeding. turns out she has a posterior tongue-tie. if I wasn't so stubborn, I probably would have given up, I didn't even know about the tongue-tie until a couple months ago, and I'm on the edge of weaning her to just once or twice a day because her latch has deteriorated further. If you can, maybe find out what problems she's having and help her research possible solutions? one of the biggest reasons women switch to formula is because of the lack of support and misinformation for women experiencing problems. 

 


This.  My friend had the same experience and basically persevered for three months until someone told her that she shouldn't be on the edge of/in tears the whole time.  Her son was also tongue tied and as soon as it was clipped it was like enlightenment.  I hope she's able to overcome her challenges....you're so right about the breastfeeding and incredible bond it brings.

 

post #44 of 100

I agree that breastfeeding can be very difficult because of lack of support.  I have totally  had those feelings of "I understand why other women formula feed."  I think breastfeeding is absolutely the best and a wonderful experience (and I would encourage anyone I know to do it), but it can also be very challenging--at least I think so--even if you're doing everything "right."  And if you're a teen mother in the middle of nowhere and everyone around you is formula feeding, it would be difficult to persevere in breastfeeding.

 

P.S.  Not that your friend is a teen mother in the middle of nowhere--I can just think of circumstances that would make bfing more challenging than necessary.  And considering that practically the entire generation before us formula fed, there's not as much support as their ought to be.  Do try to encourage your friend, but I would also encourage you to sympathize with her too.  BFing isn't easy for everyone.

 

 


Edited by Jayray - 5/12/11 at 9:54am
post #45 of 100
Well, I hope my friend can get some support. She seems to be kind of holing herself up and I don't feel like I'm a close enough friend to push any socialization on her. If/ when she feels up to hanging out I will try to gently suggest La Leche or a lactation consultant if she is still struggling.
post #46 of 100

I know there was some talk of clothes earlier in this thread.  I am just not sure what to do.  I don't know how long to wait and see if my body goes back to what it used to be.  I basically can't wear any of my old shirts without looking scandalous. winky.gif   Or something...  They are too tight and too short.  Pants I'm okay with--I have a couple sizes, can use a belt, don't mind waiting to see what happens.

 

I mean, I know my breasts will eventually chill out a little and maybe my pudgy belly will go back in a bit, but I don't know if I want to wear maternity shirts until then!  And maybe all my old shirts are too short and too small anyway. 

 

Anywho, mostly just venting/pondering.  I would be happy to get rid of a bunch of clothes and simplify my wardrobe, I just don't know if I want to have to do the shopping and spend the money.

post #47 of 100
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I know there was some talk of clothes earlier in this thread.  I am just not sure what to do.  I don't know how long to wait and see if my body goes back to what it used to be.  I basically can't wear any of my old shirts without looking scandalous. winky.gif   Or something...  They are too tight and too short.  Pants I'm okay with--I have a couple sizes, can use a belt, don't mind waiting to see what happens.

 

I mean, I know my breasts will eventually chill out a little and maybe my pudgy belly will go back in a bit, but I don't know if I want to wear maternity shirts until then!  And maybe all my old shirts are too short and too small anyway. 

 

Anywho, mostly just venting/pondering.  I would be happy to get rid of a bunch of clothes and simplify my wardrobe, I just don't know if I want to have to do the shopping and spend the money.



boob size and belly do go down eventually, but I would count on the breast size being close to where it is now for about a year. I bought some longer plain tee-shirts that work now and won't look too bad when I'm smaller chested. I need to get myself a pair of pants and a pair of shorts or a skirt that fit though. 

post #48 of 100
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I know there was some talk of clothes earlier in this thread.  I am just not sure what to do.  I don't know how long to wait and see if my body goes back to what it used to be.  I basically can't wear any of my old shirts without looking scandalous. winky.gif   Or something...  They are too tight and too short.  Pants I'm okay with--I have a couple sizes, can use a belt, don't mind waiting to see what happens.

 

I mean, I know my breasts will eventually chill out a little and maybe my pudgy belly will go back in a bit, but I don't know if I want to wear maternity shirts until then!  And maybe all my old shirts are too short and too small anyway. 

 

Anywho, mostly just venting/pondering.  I would be happy to get rid of a bunch of clothes and simplify my wardrobe, I just don't know if I want to have to do the shopping and spend the money.


I broke down and bought a pair of jeans (zappos, so not too bad cost-wise) and I feel like a million dollars.  I'm still wearing maternity shirts because of the boob thing but will find some cheap shirts too.  its made a huge difference for my self esteem, and I'm now thinking that spending $150 is going to be money well spent if it means I'm not super down because of my appearance.

 

post #49 of 100
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So my friend that had the c-section and then was in the hospital for 8 days posted on facebook the other day that breastfeeding is really challenging and that she is going to stick with it but she really understands why people formula feed... I read that and just don't get it at all and was hoping you guys could give me some perspective so I don't feel judgmental about it. The only way this makes sense to me is if you are pumping because you're back to work or whatever- but she isn't.

Personally, I feel like breastfeeding is, first off, one of the most beautiful things in the world, the bonding between infant and mother is so important and great... I really appreciate it and don't understand when others don't. Also, it seems soooo much easier than formula feeding: it's free, always mixed up, the right temp, and ready to go. There are no bottles to wash (unless pumping, of course, but not what we are talking about here). I think feeding an infant is kind of challenging, since they eat so often and spit up and all, but not breastfeeding as opposed to formula.

So I am just totally perplexed with my friend here, who I really wouldn't have thought would feel this way. She is really into organic food and natural stuff, so I guess I just thought she would feel the same way as I do. I am concerned that she is having problems adjusting to motherhood, but am I just missing something?

On a similar note, saw a pic of my cousin's baby eating from a bottle and really hoping it was breastmilk- but he's only like a week old so afraid it is formula. I just feel so strongly about breastfeeding, and especially with having a little one right now I am getting a little emotional about it!


When I was having all those issues when Harper was a week or two old, I totally considered formula feeding, although never said so out loud because I was worried DH would jump at it, just to make me feel better in the moment. Getting BF started was really hard for us. Visiting a lactation consultant was the best thing we did. Now I love to nurse and she is super at it. I would recommend a LC or LLL visit to your friend. If it helps her then I'm sure she will be so thankful afterwards, even if she is miffed by the suggestion. And honestly, it sounds like she is reaching out for help/advice.
 

 

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Originally Posted by Jayray View Post

I know there was some talk of clothes earlier in this thread.  I am just not sure what to do.  I don't know how long to wait and see if my body goes back to what it used to be.  I basically can't wear any of my old shirts without looking scandalous. winky.gif   Or something...  They are too tight and too short.  Pants I'm okay with--I have a couple sizes, can use a belt, don't mind waiting to see what happens.

 

I mean, I know my breasts will eventually chill out a little and maybe my pudgy belly will go back in a bit, but I don't know if I want to wear maternity shirts until then!  And maybe all my old shirts are too short and too small anyway. 

 

Anywho, mostly just venting/pondering.  I would be happy to get rid of a bunch of clothes and simplify my wardrobe, I just don't know if I want to have to do the shopping and spend the money.


I'm still wearing all my maternity shirts and I don't plan on giving that up any time soon, mostly because of the belly.
 

 

post #50 of 100

Clothes... ugh.   I wear maternity shirts a lot too - belly and boobs make most other shirts not fit right.  I am also looking for some others to buy and wear and am getting a couple nursing shirts since i need new ones anyway.  I also actually figured out I can nurse while DS is in the Sakura Bloom sling.  I NEVER thought I would be able to do that but I can (need two hands though).  So a couple nursing shirts would help that process as well.  

 

I agree after about a year the boob size is smaller.  I nursed DD for 3 years and it was a gradual process as she nursed less. 

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Today is my last day of maternity leave!  Wow!  I am only not freaking out/crying because I teach and this summer am just doing one online class and will not need any daycare for the babe yet.  Phew!  Otherwise I think I would be a mess right now.  I am so fortunate that he won't start daycare until he is 5 months old.  To celebrate the last day my mom is coming down and we and the kids are going shopping and out for lunch.  I plan to stop by Fashion Bug to look for Capris that fit and some long t-shirts (Fashion Bug seems to carry fairly long shirts compared to many other stores!).  

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I am also thinking I might drive to a store to pick up a NoseFreda snottsucker.  I am sick of trying to use the bulb to only get screaming (but no snot) as a result.  Has anyone else used this?  I am hoping my mom will be willing to try her hand at watching both kids for an hour or so while I do that.  the store is almost 30 minutes away and Max STILL hates being in the car/careseat and I hate to listen to him screaming back there.  My mom was great at taking care of DD and I think she can handle the 2 of them for a short time pretty easily (it helps that DD is pretty easy and helpful).

 

Have any of you used it?

 

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Lets see... what else?  I don't get a chance to type much so I have to cram everything into one post!

 

Oh yeah, a friend of mine is sending me her Mei Tei to try.. I am loving my SB sling and I have a Moby I love (but it gets sooo warm to wear).  I think in a couple months the SB sling will start to get difficult as baby gets too heavy for one shoulder.  I seem to have an addiction to various baby carriers so I am super excited to have another to try for free!

 

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For the FB friend with breastfeeding issues.  I would at a minimum send her some links to good resources like the LLL website and/or www.kellymom.com  I would also tell her that even if you don't know her that well she is welcome to message or call you if she wants to vent or get advice on some specific problems (you could send all this in a FB message or something).  I think if she posted about it on FB it is ok to then send some general information her way and let her know if you have also had any problems how you got through it etc.   Sometimes just knowing you are not alone and that there might be help out there is a great thing!

 

I have ONE friend I know who with her 2nd child is trying to BF for at least 2 years (did 6 months with her first) and although I don't know her that well I at least made sure to let her know I had done 3 years with my first and to give her a book reference (mothering your nursing toddler - loved it!) and mainly just let her know that there is someone else she knows who did extended nursing.  I wish I had known someone!

post #51 of 100

It is so hot here I've been living in sundresses. Ones I can easily pull down or to the side. Packing maternity clothes today!! At the very least I won't be needing them until later this year. Pretty sure AF has been here this week. No idea if I will ovulate though.Will check back in Monday with 2.5 month weight check.

 

Have a good weekend!thumb.gif

post #52 of 100
Just got my Moby Wrap in the mail, I'm excited. I have a knock-off New Native sling that I like a lot for times when I'm not doing a ton of walking, like restaurants and quick shopping trips, and a handmade Mei Tai that I'm not crazy about. It doesn't get snug around the head area so I can't keep her head on my chest, and just isn't super comfortable. Both are black, so get kind of warm, especially the sling which is unfortunately a cotton/ poly blend (which I didn't realize when I ordered it), it gets ridiculous in the sun. So I ordered the Moby in slate, which is a good color for me and DH. I swear, all we wear is black, brown, and grey, and an occasional dark blue. I plan on getting an Ergo in a couple of months, too, for hot weather and hikes it seems better, but haven't heard great things about it with tiny babies.

We went to this awesome gourmet vegan dinner at a local restaurant last night- all the food was local and organic, and paired with local beers. So cool, and 10% of the proceeds went to a charity that helps settle refugees, so that made it even better. I couldn't believe how packed it was, it was crazy. We had herb-pressed tofu with smoked tempeh, asparagus terrine with a mustard sauce, rosemary roasted macademia nuts, and chocolate cake with coconut sorbet, rhubarb jam, and macademia praline. I loved that the chef went all out to make really fancy dishes, the vegan restaurants around here are great but have more casual food. Some of the fancy restaurants in more expensive areas of the county have vegan nights but they are way out of our price range, so this was super cool.

Haha, when we got home DH found a macademia nut in Freja's diaper... not sure how that happened as she was wearing a onesie under overalls and was inside a sling, but it was pretty funny.
post #53 of 100

i dont have that brand of snot sucker, but i do have that type. i got it in japan, where they are all like that. it's great, i love it for colds!

 

i think you'll like the mei tai too!

 

post #54 of 100
Jcregan- someone was just raving about that sucker over on the life with babe board. HTH


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post #55 of 100
Thread Starter 

we've been using that snot sucker, and it does pull the snot out. it doesn't magically get ALL of it, but it gets big gobs, unlike the bulb things. baby doesn't like it while i'm doing it, but gets over it the second i stop.

post #56 of 100
Just pumped 3 oz into a bottle for DH to give to baby tomorrow morning. I don't want her first experience with a bottle to be on her first day of daycare in two weeks. Is it odd that I am sad about this? Excited for DH who has waited patiently for this until I was ready, but sad that our BF relationship is changing. greensad.gif

On the upside, once she does bottles well with DH I am going back to yoga class smile.gif

Side note- I have evenflo glass 4 oz bottles. Anyone know of sleeves for these? And what is the best way to warm a glass bottle?


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post #57 of 100

Virginia, I have the Evenflo glass bottles too.  I got them from a friend who assured me they are basically unbreakable (she never had a broken one with her child).  I don't think you need sleeves. My husband has been doing a weekend morning bottle with the baby for a few weeks.  He just sets the bottle in a bowl of warm water for a few minutes to warm it up. He really enjoys having this time with the baby and it has definitely given them some bonding time. I hope it goes well for you!

post #58 of 100

I guess it is bottle-introducing time. Isaac won't be in daycare, but my friend wants to start working out together, and it's nice to be able to go out without the baby every once in a while. I'm really not ready to leave him for very long yet (I've left him once, for about 45 minutes, while he was fast asleep), but I guess if we don't introduce the bottle now he's not likely to take it well. 

post #59 of 100
Thread Starter 

we're going to do the bottle thing this week too. it is VERY sad for me, but necessary.

post #60 of 100
Bottling is NOT going well. DH has tried twice today and she took like 3 sips total. We bought some different nipples to try. I have 3 friends coming to visit and lots more locally that we can ask to try feeding her if she won't take from DH. This is why I'm giving her two weeks to learn!

I have a glass bottle with 3 oz in it that I pumped last night. We have warmed it up a bit twice today in warm water and had it out of the fridge for maybe 10 minutes each time. How long would you keep this milk? Can I use it tomorrow? Freeze it? I hate the thought of throwing it away!


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