Originally Posted by jenniepaige
I have three kids who all go through what you are describing at different times. It finally got so bad at meal time that I just stopped fighting it. I just told them that this was your meal. If you want to eat it, great-if not then that's ok too but you just aren't getting anything else until you eat this. Honestly, it took a lot of pressure and focus off of them and the fighting and stress went way down. And guess what? They ate the meals more. Not all the time, no way, but it has improved drastically. Also don't expect for things to change over night. Slowly cut back on the sweets because sugar can be very addicting and he may go through a withdraw period. I would make sure that he is getting plenty of healthy fats too which should help to cut down on some of the cravings. Try putting some virgin coconut oil in a smoothie and start from there. Also if you just don't give him the options above that you mentioned then there is nothing to argue about. It will take some time but he will come around. Three is still very young.
Yes. I agree with getting rid of the non-options. And don't fight about the food. "This is what we are having, you can choose to eat it or leave it." End of story. Don't make it a battle, refuse to let him draw you into a fight; he will always win, because it's his body. I would also add that popsicles, pancakes, waffles, etc. aren't necessarily bad; you can learn how to make them yourself so they are a healthy food. It may take some trial and error to figure out how your family likes them, but don't give up! It is def. worth the effort.
Maybe have a plan for phasing out the foods you don't want him to eat, and gradually introduce foods that you want to replace them with. And keep offering. My 4 yr. old will tell me "I don't like that. That makes me sick. That is yucky.", and then, once I convince him to try a couple of bites, he will tell me more often than not, "I like that! Can I have more?" Not every child is like that (I have one who isn't), but many children are convinced they don't like something, just because it's new, or they don't like how it looks, so keep offering. And make sure *you* are modeling good eating habits. If you won't eat something, chances are, neither will he.
Please don't beat yourself up over this. It's not your fault that your child is picky, or has a sweet tooth, or only likes "junk" food. You didn't make him this way by starting solids with fruit. (I have 5 children, all have started solids with fruit, all eat most everything I put in front of them, most days, lol.) Like a PP said, breastmilk is sweet. And like a PP said, 3 is very young, there is still lots of time to shape his tastes. You haven't ruined your child, lol! (I'm sure there are things we all do that we worry have ruined, or are ruining, our children!)
WRT to homemade formula, I don't see a problem with it. I can't see how it would harm him. You could treat it like a smoothie, and throw some fruit in it or something, make that part of your breakfast options. Just a thought.
Hang in there, mama. You are going to get to the other side, and it will be all right.