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post #101 of 219

Hi Ladies! I don't post much, but I read EVERY post! orngtongue.gif Also, ya'll know SO much more about all of this than I do. I'm glad this thread is active though! It gives me something to read while nursing and holding DD through her naps! I do find it hard to keep track of everybody and their stories since we don't know each other IRL.

 

DH and I chatted about TTC #2 again recently. At first he said he wanted to wait saying his main reason was he only wanted one in diapers at a time. eyesroll.gif Well, he has now said he doesn't really care. YAY! I just hope I didn't badger him into it. I've tried really hard to not talk about TTC lately (ahem, I want to talk about it daily, 2-3xs shy.gif). Sometimes it's hard to gage a man's emotions/thoughts/feelings. You all never feel like that do you!?

 

I'm so glad you brought up the emotional side, Harmony. I go back and forth several times a day thinking, "I can do another one. They will be almost two years apart at this point. I'm doing a great job with DD." Then again, "I can't believe I want to be pregnant with #2, I can barely handle #1! I'll be sick, then tired, then just big and uncomfortable. And, of course I'll still have to care for DD through all that. It is hard enough to clean/cook/shop/ect. ect. with one, but TWO! I'm crazy...!!" HAHA! We want six or more so we better keep plugging along towards that goal! Sheepish.gif

post #102 of 219
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bugglette.. i think you need to make each of us one of those goats.  it's truly adorable.

 

blissful_maia.. the time we conceived dd i was super duper sick, too.. think about your mucus... lots of mucus = good, right?  fingers crossed.

 

Thanks for the success story, and you're right. My mucous was the same as usual if not a little more, um, copious. redface.gif I'm more concerned about the timing... we dtd 3 days before O and a couple hours after cause we were so busy feeling sick.
 

 

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Afm: AF started today. Another 8 day LP. I'm going to up my B6 again this cycle (to about 100 from 75), start taking maca and hope I O at a decent time so we can insem this cycle! Please move me to waiting to O!

 

Sorry you had a crummy LP, mama. hug.gif Hopefully the maca and the increased B6 help and next month is yours!

 

 

As for me, I am feeling really gross and crampy today, at 11dpo. My LP my first pp cycle (last month) was 13 days so I'm sure AF'll show on Monday.

 

post #103 of 219

Hey mamas, looks like I'll be rejoining you. It's not official yet, but I started mild cramping and spotting on Thursday, went for blood test, and it came back at 242, I'm supposed to be 5-6 wks. Also had an ultrasound which didnt show anything, no sac, no nothing... I'm supposed to go back next Thursday to check the levels again, but I know I'm out.

This will be my 3rd early loss, 2 before my text book perfect pregnancy with dd (20 months) and now this one. I seem to get preg pretty easily, but cant seem to hold on to them. With dd I decided to do acupuncture for 3 months after my 2nd early loss, and continued throughout the entire pregnancy. I think I'll start that up again.

 

You can move be back from the success stories to "waiting to be ready"

Thanks.

post #104 of 219

carmen358, thanks for the info.  Sounds like we have similar situations-- short luteal phase(mine was 8 days this last one) and a desire to do some night weaning!  I haven't got a clue how to do it... I'm interested in hearing how it goes for you.  I saw my acupuncturist today and we talked about how important it was to get plrenty of rest, and I'm certainly feeling like the night wakings are taking its toll.  I'm also on 100mg of Vitamin B6.  What is maca?  Have you tried vitex chasteberry (is that what it is called?)  If I'm taking Vitamin B6, I wonder if I still would need to take anything else in addition...

 

 

post #105 of 219

Sorry for your loss, Carolyn_mtlhug.gif Hopefully the acupuncture helps and your next bean is super sticky. 

post #106 of 219


I'm sorry for your loss, Carolyn_mtl.Heal well and take care.

 

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carmen358, thanks for the info.  Sounds like we have similar situations-- short luteal phase(mine was 8 days this last one) and a desire to do some night weaning!  I haven't got a clue how to do it... I'm interested in hearing how it goes for you.  I saw my acupuncturist today and we talked about how important it was to get plrenty of rest, and I'm certainly feeling like the night wakings are taking its toll.  I'm also on 100mg of Vitamin B6.  What is maca?  Have you tried vitex chasteberry (is that what it is called?)  If I'm taking Vitamin B6, I wonder if I still would need to take anything else in addition...

 

 


Maca is a root vegetable that is used for fertility. I also think some people use it for libido. I am just learning about....there is tons of info on the boards here.

 

I have also started reading about vitex more. It scares me a little bit because I've read that if you don't "need" it, it can really mess with your cycles. I guess I'm just not sure if my cycles are different because DD is still nursing or if this is the new norm. Or maybe that is the same thing at this point!

 

I've been quite sick the past 2 days so we've put off the nightweaning until next weekend. I think I'll need energy for it! However, I have started with telling DD that when it's night time and dark outside the milkies have to go to sleep. Then when it's morning and light out she can have as much milkies as she wants. She gets it a bit....in the morning she pats the "milkies" while she's nursing and points to the light coming in the window lol However, she's still nursing at night so not sure if she gets the complete story! If it's too traumatic I have no intention of continuing with it and will just have to try again at a later date. How old is your little one? Are they fairly verbal?

 

post #107 of 219

So sorry for your loss Carolyn_mtl. I hope the acupuncture helps next month and you become pregnant again very soon. 

post #108 of 219
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Update to here!

 

nstewart - have you been temping? winky.gif  I have been doing very badly at making sure I temp every morning and it is definitely having and effect on my chart.
 

carmen358 -  I'm so happy you're out of 'waiting to be ready!'  I hope you can insem trhis cycle and get your BFP!

 

 

texasfarmom - I have a hard time keeping track of everyone too!  OMG, I wish DH was easier to decipher!  He never actually said he wanted to start trying, he just stopped wearing condoms, after a TTC convo (where he said we weren't finacially ready for #2, and I said we weren't for DS but we made it work and we will never really be financially ready for any)....and he mentioned before that he wouldn't want to know the details, so I almost feel like I'm being decietful.  But he would still be using condoms if he didn't want #2, right?!  LOL
 

Carolyn_mtl - I am so sorry for your loss hug2.gif   I hope accupuncture works for you again and gives you a super sticky healthy babe.
 

 

 

AFM - I've been bad at temping this cycle, but I just entered a 3rd high temp in FF and am curious as to why I have not been given CH.  Maybe tommorrow *sigh*, I am super impatient...if you couldn't tell before.

post #109 of 219

HI ladies,

I haven't been keeping up with the posts here but wanted to ask a question since you girls in the same boat as me.  I was hopeful this month with some symptoms but my AF showed up early making my cycle 27 and LP 10 days.  I'm usually 29-30 days cycle.

What is safe things to take for improving fertility while nursing a toddler?  Does anyone take anything?  I got Fertilaid but it says don't use during nursing and I also read that some people have some negative side effect.  I don't like to take something that is not "natural" and I don't want to confuse my body by taking something that will give more harm than good.  I just listed names off of reading bunch of posts and wow, there are more than 10 things people mention of taking and I'm so lost LOL...

Thank you.

post #110 of 219

I'm 90% sure I'm out this month, boo. gloomy.gif I have that aching, tugging feeling in my uterus I always get pre-AF and got a BFN at 12dpo this morning. Even with my m/c I had a BFP at 12dpo. I mean I know it's not over til AF shows, but I never felt good about this month. If I get AF tomorrow though, I will have had a 13 and 14 day LP my first 2 pp cycles, at least that's a positive! Soooo.... hopefully it's next month for me. If not, I may hold off for a few or at least do the "not trying, not preventing" thing. I find TTC so emotionally draining.

post #111 of 219

Carolyn_mtl - Sorry to hear about your loss hug2.gif   I'm glad that you and your accupuncturist are coming up with some plans for what will hopefully soon be another chance for a super sticky healthy little one. Hugs.
 

post #112 of 219

Well AF arrived Saturday morning, so I'm out this cycle. I was disappointed because I thought we had timed it pretty well and that was also only a 10 day lp, down from my usual 11. I also wasn't having as high of temps after my shift. I wonder if giving up the nightweaning had a worse affect than I thought. But, at this point I'm hoping it will all work itself out in its time.

post #113 of 219

Also wanted to add I am sorry for your loss Caroyln-mtl. I have had early losses too and I know it's so disappointing.

post #114 of 219

carmen358, my son is 10 months old.  I think I underestimate how much he understands, and so we haven't been talking much about nursing (e.g. I don't call them anything like 'nummies' or 'milkies'-- but maybe I should start the associations with him... that way we, too, can talk about light and dark time, etc.) I am into the idea of child-led weaning, but I feel the time has come to begin to look after some of my own needs too, at least a little (!)-- even if I wasn't ttc'ing right now, I just can't handle the disjointed sleep anymore.  It has gotten to the point where he wakes up sometimes every half hour during the second half of the night, just to comfort nurse. Then, I can take him off after 30 seconds, and he goes right back to sleep 99% of the time.  I can't help but wonder if that wasn't happening, if my LP would be longer.

 

Did I read somewhere that you may be doing insem this next cycle?

post #115 of 219

Bugglette: Did you try putting in a fake temp in the day past O that you missed? It may be because you have lots of missed temps...? I would try filling some in and see what happens!

 

naturallyspeaking: If you search on the forums you can find lots of threads on natural fertility while nursing. Ones I've read about are B6, Vitex and Maca. I haven't tried Vitex or Maca but have upped my B6 recently. I think Vitex can fall into the "might hurt if you don't really need it" category. Red Raspberry Leaf tea is always good and safe while nursing. Acupuncture and chinese herbs....I have done both and had great experiences.
 

 

blissful_maia: Sorry about the bfn :( It is VERY positive that you have a good LP...that can be a big battle when ttc while nursing it seems!!

 


Aimee: Sorry about AF for you too :(


TenzinsMama: 10 months may or may not be more difficult to nightwean. I know for us, DD wouldn't have been ready at that age. I also really want to let DD wean herself but we have done months of 15-45 min wake ups....all night long. We are just recently getting longer stretches consistently (and by that I mean 2-3 hours) because I think we figured out that she has some food allergies. She also goes back to sleep pretty much immediately after nursing. Or maybe it's just her age...I dunno!  I go back to work full time in July and won't be nursing/pumping for 9 hours a day so I thinkthat will make a big difference in my cycle. And yep, we hope to insem this cycle!

 

post #116 of 219

carmen358, good luck with the insem!  Is it your first one since your DS?   That is how we conceived our little guy, too.  Plus, noticing from your signature thingy that you had a home birth, as did we.  And we are both from Western Canada... definitely a few things in common.  hmmm, what cycle day are you on right now?  ha ha. When do you think you will O/have the insem-- have your cycles been pretty consistent?  We'll likely need to do the insem again, is what we were told... did you get any helpful info around knowing when is a good time for your body to be ready?  Sorry for so many questions...smile.gif

 

I'm not sure what happened before with my signature thingy... I thought I did one but looks like I'm not very good with this computer stuff!

post #117 of 219

So I'll just be lurking around since I'm likely not fertile yet.

 

I wanted to share w y'all since nobody else will appreciate this: I had a VIVID dream last night that I went to the bathroom and saw AF! ROTFLMAO.gif

 

Congrats to all the BFPs!! goodvibes.gifto everyone!!

post #118 of 219
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Updated to here!
 

naturallyspeaking - My problem is not LP length, so I have no advice on lengthening yours, but I hope you find something that works for you!

 

carmen358 - I put a fake temp in for tomorrow (today) and lowered my O day temp, and it gave me a range CD20 -36?!?  LOL. so I changed it back and just added in two temps to the 4 day no temp stretch and it gave me CH on CD33.  So I'm keeping it that way. LOL
 

ZakareyasMama -  About a week before my sister visited, I had a dream about my sister and I saw 7 or so BFPs in one day and it turns out she was early PG when she visited.  (of course, in the dream, I assumed that they were my BFPs)  So maybe your dream means something!

post #119 of 219

Bugglette, I have not been temping! sick.gif  I was laying in bed last night and thought, "I should really grab the thermometer from the dresser" but then couldn't bring myself to crawl out of bed!  And I think I need to re-read a few of the TCOYF chapters because as I'm checking my other indicators I'm thinking "is this a high or low cervix??  Is it soft, or hard?"  I need a refresher, especially since I only charted for one month (not even a full cycle!) before getting the 'ol BFP last time.

 

TenzinsMama, my DS is just about 10 mos old.  He actually nurses more at night right now than during the day, so I don't think I could night wean right now.  But every babe is different! I actually did read a really good article on line on night weaning, http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html.  Dr. Sears is also a good resource. http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/t070800.asp.  

 

 

post #120 of 219
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carmen358, good luck with the insem!  Is it your first one since your DS?   That is how we conceived our little guy, too.  Plus, noticing from your signature thingy that you had a home birth, as did we.  And we are both from Western Canada... definitely a few things in common.  hmmm, what cycle day are you on right now?  ha ha. When do you think you will O/have the insem-- have your cycles been pretty consistent?  We'll likely need to do the insem again, is what we were told... did you get any helpful info around knowing when is a good time for your body to be ready?  Sorry for so many questions...smile.gif

 

I'm not sure what happened before with my signature thingy... I thought I did one but looks like I'm not very good with this computer stuff!



Yep, this will be try #1 since DD....my partner is female and we are thrilled that we can use the same donor for a possible sibling! And yes, I had an amazing home birth and hope to have another one :) My cycle length was consistent for the first 3 pp cycles but this last one was loooong. I used to have very consistent cycles. CM has always been my best indicator of O but even that seems a bit unreliable after the last cycle. However, if I see ewcm by CD 18ish then we will go ahead and start insem'ing. We usually do 2-3 a cycle.


 

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carmen358 - I put a fake temp in for tomorrow (today) and lowered my O day temp, and it gave me a range CD20 -36?!?  LOL. so I changed it back and just added in two temps to the 4 day no temp stretch and it gave me CH on CD33.  So I'm keeping it that way. LOL
 

 

 

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