Nursing Mamas TTC May - Page 9

[siffleuse319]

Congrats to everyone who got their BFP this month. Would you mind answering a few questions to help the rest of us out? TIA Happy and Healthy 9 Ladies!!!!  http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1314660/questions-for-nursing-moms-who-are-pregnant-to-help-those-of-us-ttc-while-nursing

[sraplayas]

Thanks to everyone for the love and support.  What a blessing to have other nursing mamas here on MDC thinking of me and my dad. :)

[ericaness]

i told myself i wasnt going to POAS until at least this friday (expecting AF on Thursday). but monday i was feeling queasy, so i took the test and BFP!!!! i cannot even believe it! so excited. and scared. but mostly excited.

[Harmony96]

sraplayas, so sorry for your loss.  :hugs:

I tested this AM.  I'm only 7 DPO so I was pretty sure it would be a BFN, and it was, lol.  Originally, I was going to start testing on Friday, but now that I've tested today already, and gotten a negative, I feel like I "have" to continue testing once a day, lol.  I have enough tests to last through Tuesday morning and AF is supposed to be here Sunday (yes, I have a short-ish LP), and some more tests should be waiting for me in the mailbox that a newly-pregnant friend sent. 

[amydiane]

Originally Posted by ericaness 

i told myself i wasnt going to POAS until at least this friday (expecting AF on Thursday). but monday i was feeling queasy, so i took the test and BFP!!!! i cannot even believe it! so excited. and scared. but mostly excited.

Congrats!

[TenzinsMama]

ericaness, that is fantastic news!  What can you tell us about what you think might have worked for you this cycle?

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by ericaness 

i told myself i wasnt going to POAS until at least this friday (expecting AF on Thursday). but monday i was feeling queasy, so i took the test and BFP!!!! i cannot even believe it! so excited. and scared. but mostly excited.

Congratulations!!

[Cellist]

ericaness.....congratulations!  So exciting.  I'm also curious what you think might have worked for you this month.

Well...sometimes I think I need to not be nursing to get pregnant, but have been trying to follow my "urges" this cycle and get DH to BD on those days.  LOL  We'll see if that works.  I am kind of superstitious, and last time I went to see a psychic, she told me I either was or would soon be pregnant (if I wasn't careful).  I WANTED to be pregnant, so I was thrilled and THAT cycle I DID get pregnant.  And now have my wonderful DS!!  So, I am going back to the psychic tomorrow to see what she says about the potential for a baby #2. ;)  Anyone else do something nutty like that?

[marmo]

Can I join (again)? We're on cycle 14 and I just started temping and taking vitex. Dd also turned 2 this month I'm ready to give her a sibling! I'm on cycle day 12 and waiting to o. thanks! My Ovulation Chart

[bentlaj11]

Sraplayas.. lots of hugs and prayers for you!

ericaness... congrats!!!

AFM, I'm still keeping up with you ladies when I am able. I'm hoping for lots of BFPs for everyone ready. Also, I wanted to ask if you get a chance could you pray for a family here in OK? The mom was home with her 3 kids during the tornados, and she lost both of her sons. Her daughter is still in critical condition, and she is pg and in stable (or good?) condition. The dad was out of town, and has returned to this awfulness. I know there has been lots of tragedy with all these twisters, but if you can, remember them. Thanks!!

[ericaness]

i didnt do anything special. it was our first cycle trying. i estimated when i would probably ovulate, and we dtd every day for the week surrounding that day. well, i guess this is different: my ds still nurses a TON through out the day. he still nurses at night too, although for the past month, i have started to sleep in a separate bed from him (he still sleeps in our bed with dh, i just moved out). the constant all night nursing was hurting my back, plus he was waking up super frequently, so i thought he might wake less if the "milkies" weren't right there. so, he went from nursing most of the night to nursing 2 or 3 times a night.

[hildare]

so happy for you ericaness!

cellist, i'm intrigued!  please tell us what the psychic says!  i had my tarot read last month and was told that my question would come affirmitively within the year.. now.. i am just giddily operating on the logic that this means that baby 2 will be BORN within the year (so pg soon!) and not i'd get pregnant within the year (still yay but not sure i  can afford to keep buying hpt's at the rate i have been)...

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by marmo 

Can I join (again)? We're on cycle 14 and I just started temping and taking vitex. Dd also turned 2 this month I'm ready to give her a sibling! I'm on cycle day 12 and waiting to o. thanks! My Ovulation Chart

Welcome (back) :)

Bugglette, have you tested yet???

Afm: CD13, low on cbfm still, cm is starting to get more fertile, nipples are hurting but I think that's because DD has been nursing SO much the last 3 nights and seems to be biting lots too :(

[Aka mommy]

Originally Posted by bentlaj11 

Sraplayas.. lots of hugs and prayers for you!

ericaness... congrats!!!

AFM, I'm still keeping up with you ladies when I am able. I'm hoping for lots of BFPs for everyone ready. Also, I wanted to ask if you get a chance could you pray for a family here in OK? The mom was home with her 3 kids during the tornados, and she lost both of her sons. Her daughter is still in critical condition, and she is pg and in stable (or good?) condition. The dad was out of town, and has returned to this awfulness. I know there has been lots of tragedy with all these twisters, but if you can, remember them. Thanks!!

Oh no. Keeping the family in my thoughts
Sraplayas - keeping you in my thoughts, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Ericaness- Congrats!!

AFM - I've not been on much since we moved and I broke my phone. I'm on CD 50 with no AF in sight. For those who nightweaned, did you transition your LOs to a bottle? Ds will only take water out of a sippy on rare occasion. But other than that we've been fighting the night weaning. He isn't like my other 2, they each easily nightweaned right around a year (Ds is 11 months) and all dh had to do was walk them and within a few nights they no longer woke up. It was very minimal crying and very gentle. Ds is traumatizing and we try it for a night and then wait a week or more because the next day ds is an emotional mess and the best we've gotten is me sleeping on the couch and him only nursing twice. If we push it any more than that it's nonstop screaming and you'd think he was in pain. So we aren't pushing it, but I'm exhausted and really love to get a nights sleep and I think it would help regulate my cycle back to where it was (I had 3 consecutive ones before this whacked cycle).

[ohiogirl01]

Congrats on all the BFP's!  And bentlaj11, I'm praying for the family.  I can't imagine dealing with the stress and loss, especially while pregnant!

So nightweaning is not going so well after all.  I am trying to really fill DD up before bedtime, but she still wakes up one time just about every night, though the time varies tremendously.  I don't really mind, just that I wonder when I'll ever get down to fewer feedings to give TTC a chance!  She's almost a year, so I know it should be possible... 

Now I wonder if she's going to really start ramping up the nursing because she's starting to refuse solid food again, and the doctor said she has 5 teeth she's working on.  Last time she was sick and teething she barely ate any solids for 2 months, and between that and being up all night I lost a lot of weight that I shouldn't have lost.  I love being able to comfort her with nursing, but does anyone has any suggestions to help her keep some solids in her diet?  Putting things into popsicles definitely works sometimes, but any other ideas?

[ohiogirl01]

Aka mommy - As you can read, I'm not a complete success with nightweaning either.  But after 2 months of sick and teething and up all night, we were very successful in getting DD down to just one waking most nights.  I had tried everything including CIO (I know, I said I never would!) a few months earlier without much luck, so I did not want to try again.  But at 11 months, our kids should be able to go all night or at least most of the night without feeding.

Here's the method I used:  I read somewhere about the walk-in walk-out method, and I think it was from something called the Baby Whisperer?  Anyway, the idea is that when the baby wakes up, you walk in and pat/hug/kiss them, tell them you love them, then walk out, even if they are still crying.  Don't pick them up.  If they continue to cry, keep going back for just a minute every few minutes.  I still didn't like the sound of this, since it sounded like a lot of crying.  My daughter was very stubborn last time, but she barely cried at all with this.  I think she felt reassured that I was there since I kept coming back every few minutes, and then she could focus on relaxing and letting herself go back to sleep.  I only did this with one feed at a time, I would get up and let her nurse whenever she wanted for the rest of the night.  Every few days I would cut out one more of her "comfort" feeds since I knew she didn't really need them, and within a week and a half we were done.  Of course she has started waking one time again, and if I walk-in and walk-out for maybe 10 minutes without her going back to sleep, then at this point I assume she's actually hungry and I feed her. 

I hope this helps!  I hate crying, but this way didn't take much to get her down to just what she seems to need.

[sraplayas]

Ericaness--Many congratulations to you!!!

Aka mommy--Hugs to you.  I know that sleep is precious.  Sorry I don't have much to contribute as DS is still in bed with us at night.  Since my prolacting tested normal for TTCing I haven't bothered trying to night wean since he's gradually decreasing on his own (at 2.5--tee hee).

AFM I've been really tired the last two days and this morning I had a moment of nausea when I smelled eggs...no eggs in the kitchen, also sensitve nipples. It's completely possible that I am just tired from all that has been going on, but still... I just started temping again this morning and my temp was above what I believe to be my O coverline (although, FF hasn't "given" me one due to lack of enough temps).  The +OPK inspired me to start temping again, although I've been charting all along with FF.  

I don't want to get my hopes up but it's hard not too, especially when it would be so nice for some positive news. :)

[nstewart]

Sraplayas  - I'm very sorry for your loss.  I hope you have family and friends surrounding you through this tough time.

Ericaness - Congrats!!

AKA Mommy, if I posted this here already, I'm sorry!  I know I posted it somewhere either on mothering.com or on another forum but I can't remember where!!    I haven't night-weaned yet, so I don't know how well this method works, but did like the sounds of it!  http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html  If you DO try this method, please share how it goes as I'm very curious to try this myself when the time comes!

Cellist - I have never been to a psychic, but have always been so intrigued by it.  I think that I sort of don't want to know the future.  The idea of it freaks me out!  Yet at the same time I've always wanted to go to one.  Just never had the guts.  If you go, let us know what they say!!

AFM - taking note of symptoms but I haven't bothered actually putting them in a chart.  I feel like AF is no where near reappearing...Maybe I can canvas your opinions.  DS has really cut down on his nursing during the day, but nurses a lot at night.  He nurses when we wake up, then at 9:30ish, then not again until 2:30, then again at 3:30, then at bedtime (8ish) then 11pm, then maybe 3 or so times through the night (I don't really pay attention anymore).  Is the stretch from 9:30 to 2:20 long enough that I might get a PP AF sometime in the next several months?  Since I have to go back to work (in 2 mos, DS will be 1), I like this arrangement as I thought I'd have to pump less and he'd be taking less milk from a sippy cup and more from mamma.  If I were to only pump once a day during the work day when I'm back at work, would this tank my supply? If not, do you think that stretching out to nursing at say, 7am, then pumping at say 2 or 3 would increase the chances of AF returning?

[Aka mommy]

Ohiogirl- thanks for sharing. We have yet to get Ds into his own bed let alone room, especially with the move. We have the playcrib set up in our room but right now occasionally dh can lay him down at 8 and get him to sleep there for 3 hours. Last night he literally slept curled up on my shoulder with his arm around my neck. I'm thinking the move has been a lot for him, it must be a lot for such a little one.

Sraplayas - thanks! I hadn't been too concerned either as my levels are also normal, so it's solely a selfish thing of wanting a few bigger windows of sleep. Your temps sound hopeful! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you! FF hasn't given me a coverline yet either, I think because my cycle still hasnt ended. But I've noticed that ever since supposed O I've had much higher temps, I'm thinking it's my body getting back into it's normal swing as the 97s is oddly low for me (in usually in the 98s).

[Aka mommy]

Originally Posted by nstewart 

Sraplayas  - I'm very sorry for your loss.  I hope you have family and friends surrounding you through this tough time.

Ericaness - Congrats!!

AKA Mommy, if I posted this here already, I'm sorry!  I know I posted it somewhere either on mothering.com or on another forum but I can't remember where!!    I haven't night-weaned yet, so I don't know how well this method works, but did like the sounds of it!  http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html  If you DO try this method, please share how it goes as I'm very curious to try this myself when the time comes!

Cellist - I have never been to a psychic, but have always been so intrigued by it.  I think that I sort of don't want to know the future.  The idea of it freaks me out!  Yet at the same time I've always wanted to go to one.  Just never had the guts.  If you go, let us know what they say!!

AFM - taking note of symptoms but I haven't bothered actually putting them in a chart.  I feel like AF is no where near reappearing...Maybe I can canvas your opinions.  DS has really cut down on his nursing during the day, but nurses a lot at night.  He nurses when we wake up, then at 9:30ish, then not again until 2:30, then again at 3:30, then at bedtime (8ish) then 11pm, then maybe 3 or so times through the night (I don't really pay attention anymore).  Is the stretch from 9:30 to 2:20 long enough that I might get a PP AF sometime in the next several months?  Since I have to go back to work (in 2 mos, DS will be 1), I like this arrangement as I thought I'd have to pump less and he'd be taking less milk from a sippy cup and more from mamma.  If I were to only pump once a day during the work day when I'm back at work, would this tank my supply? If not, do you think that stretching out to nursing at say, 7am, then pumping at say 2 or 3 would increase the chances of AF returning?

Thank you for the link! I like it a lot as we've tried the no cry sleep solution and it tanked. I feel a lot of night methods are all or nothing and clearly Ds has shown those don't work for him. But this comes in line with dh's method!! Believe it or not he's much more intuitive to our kids night time/cosleeping relationship where as I'm just an ornery zombie wanting my sleep. But when I'm on the couch, he will wake up with Ds and try to soothe him back to sleep if it doesn't work he tries to walk him and then will bring him out to nurse and then before Ds falls asleep will take him and walk him and go back to the bed with him. But it only lasts a week or so as usually dh travels a lot and then I'm back in the bed with Ds. Dh has no trips till July so I will try this method next! Thank you

As far as your supply and your cycles I can only share my experience with my last Dd. I returned to work when she was 9 months old because she was easy baby and took breastmilk out of a bottle no problem. She nursed the same as your Ds (my Ds has the same schedule now through the day too), and so I only had to pump once during the day at work to keep my supply up. My periods returned with regularity when she was 9 months old. But she did start reverse cycling, which I think was just her wY of making up for being away from me all day and started nursing every 45 minutes at night. After three months I about lost it and at that same time was dx'ed with hyperthyroiditis and was having a really rough go of it so weaned her at a year. Thankfully she wasn't so upset and was fine with the weaning, but it was really hard on me as I'm a self weaned type of gal and that's what I'd let my other Dd do. So maybe if you can pump a bit here and there to have in the freezer for night time feedings in case your Ds reverse cycles is really the only advise I'd give.