I feel like I'm here complaining out my in-laws all of the time but it seems to be a never ending saga. I have googled to find something about this and didn't have any success. So here goes. Please forgive me and I promise my next post will be a positive post about my beloved husband's family, who do have many great attributes!
My daughter is 3 years old and she is half Chinese/half Caucasian. Her father's family is Chinese. When she was little, her hair was thick and dark and had curls at the ends. It was really cute. As time as passed, it has gotten lighter and thinner and is not growing very quickly. It is growing but it is very fine. It is not falling out and her health has been fine. She eats like a toddler, a little picky and she goes through the normal toddler food strikes and binge. I have a one year old with the thick, dark healthy looking hair.
My inlaws have been barking at me and my husband about my oldest daughter's hair. They insist that she is not eating enough, well enough... and they are telling us that we need to give her fish oil (never mind that this is not even done anymore) and they think that I need to stop breastfeeding her. They have been telling me to stop breastfeeding her since she turned one, so they have lost this battle but they are relentless. Long story short, I feel they are insulting my daughter and I'm also feeling very sensitive about the whole issue because I don't want my daughter to feel bad about her appearance. When they encourage her to eat foods they want her to eat, they say, "It will make your hair grow." I'm really tired of this and I want it to stop. I know that my husband needs to address the issue but I wanted to ask here first...
Has anyone else had this kind of issue? How did you deal with it? I pulled strands of hair out of my head and from both of my daughter's hair to show my husband's family: mine is the thinnest, oldest daughter is in the middle and youngest has the thickest. They dismissed my demonstration and told my husband that I was wrong, that it is not normal for my oldest daughter's hair to have changed with age. I think it is normal. Hair can change over time and I think my Chinese in-laws just don't understand the type of hair that I have and that my daughter has. Has anyone's child's hair changed so drastically over time?
Thanks for your help!