Originally Posted by sparkletruck
...And isnt it odd that cut-offs are all over the map; December in CA, Sept. 1 here, June in some places. I am actually quite stressed about the decision for dd1 (Oct. 3rd bday w/ Sept. 1 cut-off, doing 3rd grade + work) to move her into third instead of bumping her up to 4th. She would fit so much better in the 4th year, and last night, despite having talked to her at length last week about having decided on 3rd, she started bawling when she finally understood that we were in fact putting her in third (I think she was hearing the reasons last week as reasons we WOULD keep her in third, not reasons that we are going to). I just feel ill about it. But when I think about how this decision will affect her educational experience for the duration; always being the youngest, always being on the less developed scale of readiness (per Geo's mention of the brain not being ready for things until a certain time). BLEH! I really dont know what to do, and dont think I would feel comfortable with either decision.
The subtext, however, to my and kerc's comments is that some kids' brains are more ready for that kind of work at a significantly younger age. DD surprised everyone at age 7 last year that her meta-cognition (awareness of what and how she's thinking) was well in place and mature. She's done very well (sigh, a little too well) this year in 5th grade math. She's learned to show her work and explain her reasoning through multi-step problems.
You're effectively talking about a grade skip. Look into the Iowa Acceleration Scale: It's a point/check list that gives you a sense of whether or not a grade skip is a good idea, a marginal one, or should not be considered. Achievement/IQ figure heavily in there, as do being old for grade, the school being supportive, and the child wanting it. From what you've said, you're already at ~50 points on an 80 point scale.
That being said, just because a kid might be a good candidate for a skip, it doesn't mean they should. I really like the idea of being able to stay with age mates while being taught at an appropriate level. If the school is providing good instruction and the kid is generally happy, I see no reason to fix something that's not broken.
And yes, the cutoffs drive me nuts. DS missed by 7 weeks and should have started kindergarten last year. He could have started early with no deficits (we were still in speech then), reading at a 2nd+ grade level, and been "certified" by his preschool teachers he was socially ready. Preschools around here will *never* say a boy is ready before age 5.5. Grrrrr. DD (Aug b-day), in all honesty, would have done better waiting until the second semester, doing the second half of kindergarten, and move onto first from there.