Of course he has a daddy,all babies have a daddy...um no mine doesn't.
I dont know why it says I like your post. Because I dont. That woman was rude and innappropriate. I dont care if shes older, unless shes been living with her head in the sand, i am sure she has come accross other daddyless children over there years.
I tried to unlike it, like on FB, but I cant. :(
I think that'd get a funnier reaction. (Mind you, it's mean of me to assume that the woman is homophobic. Despite grabbing a baby from a stranger and pushing her worldviews on the same stranger, she might be a lovely person otherwise.)
Oh, I see it's your friend's boss, not a total stranger. Slightly better.
technically your child does have a father even if he is uninvolved. Even if you bought sperm from a bank. Every child does have a father. But I would have just responded that he is not involved in our lives. of course I am not always perfectly polite and may have said something along the lines of "I don't know where he is. I put his picture on a milk carton but it doesn't seem to be helping. If you see him could you send him around?"
I don't mind old ladies taking my babies (although I would never do it because I know people are pretty touchy about it). It is what they do and was probably perfectly acceptable in their lives. I am sure they think we are rude and crazy the way we keep our babies in a no touching bubble. *shrug* every culture is different. I don't expect people outside my peer group to get all the mores and social codes we hold to.
I am really great about being brutally honest (and not above exaggerating the brutal part,) in situations like that.
Had anyone done that when my now 15yr old was little and I was single, my response would have been something along the lines of "you are right, technically she does have a biological father. But, he abandoned us when I was still pg, to run off with some crazy woman. I am now a single mom going to school and raising this beautiful child alone. So, no, at this point, she has no daddy in her life." All of that was completely true and I wasn't above stating it.
When I was dealing with secondary IF, for 6 years, someone once told me that I wasn't a "real" mom because I had an only. I informed her that my DH and I had been trying since my only was 6, when we got married and that we hadn't had success yet and that I was just coming off a failed IUI attempt and that we weren't sure that we were going to be able to continue trying because we couldn't afford an IVF because insurance didn't cover it. Needless to say, she apologized, then slunk away.
Sometimes, people need a wake up call like that to realize that they are being as rude as they are.
My answer was pretty much "oh he doesn't have a daddy just an uncle B".
That was so rude of that person to say you weren't a real parent b/c you only had one child. I'm glad you set her straight.
lol, good answer! and lol at your signature-right!
No, actually, the correct term is "sperm donor" in that situation. My son decidedly does NOT have a father.
OP, I would just say, "our family is the two of us" and leave it at that.