I am a first timer not due till Oct/Nov. I have always wanted to cosleep. My partner also wants to cosleep. First my mom told me she wanted to buy me a crib because I shouldn't get a used one. I told her I was cosleeping and we came to the agreement that she would get me an arms reach cosleeper. I know that a lot of people get these and don't use them but she is getting it from a friend who used it only a few times and at a smaller price. So we may or may not use it. I realize that and accept to just take things as they come.
Now my dad and his partner want to buy me a crib. I told him we are going to cosleep and he is a little more against it than my mom was. He wants to buy me a crib anyway because I will eventually need one.
Here is the deal. I know I really want to cosleep but of course I don't really know how it will go down for us. We have a very tall bed that we can't change. We rent and the bed is permantly in the bedroom. Also, our new child probably won't even have it's own room for a while. We have a 2 bedroom but don't really see the need for setting up a nursery in a rental house that we probably won't even use. So where would we put this crib anyway. What if we don't even end up using it? That would be such a waste. I might rather them buy me something I will definatly use like a carseat or a breastpump. Then if I wanted a crib later on I could always get one. I am also not opposed to getting a used one as long is it isn't a drop side or recalled.
On the other hand maybe we will use it and it will save us the time and money of buying one later on. Maybe it will just make them happier and feel more secure if we have one and hey, it wil be free for us. I just don't know what to do. Should I just let them buy us one or should I try to convince them that they should buy us something more useful. What would you do?