I recently left my 2 year old son with some family members (husband's side) for about an hour while I ran an errand. I rarely even leave him with my husband; I'm hardly ever away from him.
When I got back, I was told by a teenage cousin that the whole time I was gone, everyone was bad-mouthing me, calling me a bad mother and questioning my parenting decisions, specifically with my son's sleep schedule, which has been an enormous struggle for us. I am stupid for not locking him in his room at 7pm every night until he cried himself to sleep.
He has some enamel erosion on his teeth, even though I brush his teeth every day, limit sugar, etc. But they decided that I am not taking care of him, so they found an old toothbrush (!!!!!) and brushed his teeth while I was gone!
I'm 21 weeks pregnant with a girl, and that was more fuel for the fire. I really don't even want to repeat the terrible things they said.
I can tell my husband is upset about it, too, even though he is trying so hard to keep it from bothering me. He keeps saying that they are bad mouthing me because they are self-conscious about their own parenting, and I am a much better mom than they will ever be, but it's really not helping. I know that pregnancy hormones are making me very sensitive, and normally I would just let stupid comments roll off my back.
I was so excited about having a new baby, and now I am questioning everything. My husband and I both have parent issues- mine abandoned me and his died when he was young. So we both try our best to show our son how much he is loved, and do everything we can to give him a happy, safe life. I guess what my big problem is, is that I consider a parent like mine to be a 'bad parent'- someone who abandons their child. Someone who chooses a life of drugs and alcohol over their child. And now people are putting me on that same level. *sigh* I don't know what else to say about it. I guess I just needed to vent a little.