Originally Posted by miami mommy
...it really pisses me off when people (usually my mom!) refer to me as Mrs. DH's first name DH's last name. That makes me feel like I have no value as a person other than being DH's wife. I had to have a talk with my mom about that!
Ooh! Totally agree with this ^! Don't mind at all being called "Mrs. DH's LN" but the above is just awful.
I kept my own name when we got married (DH was actually more adamant about me keeping it than I was, since he really likes my name), and now we just CAN'T decided what to do for the new little one's name. Neither of us likes that the husband's name is usually the default and DH is fine with the baby having my last name, but I think I would be sad if his name was just left out...but then we don't really want to hyphenate either, as it would be a pretty long name. Some friends of ours gave both of their two children mom's last name as a middle name, and used dad's as a last name, but I don't like the idea of our babies not having their "own" middle names, yk? We've also toyed with the idea of giving one kid my last name, another kid his last name, etc. but then I worry about the children not feeling like a whole family...I can definitely see the attraction of having a unified family last name, but I'm unwilling to change mine and I don't think DH should have to change his either. Argh...I'm trying not to worry about it too much, and DH just says the solution will come to us in a dream or something lol.
So, actually, this post was totally unhelpful as I am just as stuck as you, OP!