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post #41 of 76

I hope yall don't mind me venting but I need to get it out...

 

They told us his homecoming window. I cried because I was happy.

Then, not only did they take that window away... they told us although they don't know WHEN it will be now, it will probably be several weeks to over a month later! Why would they even give us the window if they were going to just take it away?! And the new possible dates are later than even my pessimistic guess at the beginning of this deployment!

 

I just wish they would send them home already. They aren't doing anything but sitting around every day. They finished their training and turned over the vehicles to another group that is there so they have nothing to do. Why must they keep my husband over there and away from our daughter who has already hit pretty much all of the huge milestones apart from walking while her daddy was gone... I'd like him to have at least THAT.

 

Grrrrrr sometimes military life is just SO FRUSTRATING!

post #42 of 76
Thread Starter 


hug.gif I could have written your post about a year ago. It was a nightmare and all because of idiocy. I hope whatever reason is keeping him there is resolved soon, it's the most frustrating and maddening thing in the world. If they don't know they shouldn't say anything, but they do it because it makes it look like they're doing something at least.

 

They lied to us for 22 days while the last of the unit was stuck trying to get home and the entire chain of command had abandoned them and jumped ship, and when it was finally resolved I had 2 days notice.

You have a right to vent and don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

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I hope yall don't mind me venting but I need to get it out...

 

They told us his homecoming window. I cried because I was happy.

Then, not only did they take that window away... they told us although they don't know WHEN it will be now, it will probably be several weeks to over a month later! Why would they even give us the window if they were going to just take it away?! And the new possible dates are later than even my pessimistic guess at the beginning of this deployment!

 

I just wish they would send them home already. They aren't doing anything but sitting around every day. They finished their training and turned over the vehicles to another group that is there so they have nothing to do. Why must they keep my husband over there and away from our daughter who has already hit pretty much all of the huge milestones apart from walking while her daddy was gone... I'd like him to have at least THAT.

 

Grrrrrr sometimes military life is just SO FRUSTRATING!



 

post #43 of 76

I am still obbessing on maternity dresses for the Marine Ball, lol. I found this website where all the dresses can be made maternity, and some of them aren't half bad (OK, some are really great!).

 

DF gets back in 2 weeks (and a 1/2 day)! And I got to Skype with him today!

post #44 of 76

wow... ill have to share that link with some of my friends who are upset about being pregnant for the ball!

post #45 of 76
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wow... ill have to share that link with some of my friends who are upset about being pregnant for the ball!



Yeah, that's a gold mine for formal maternity dresses! Here are the ones I like (that would fit an 8 month pregnant woman!):

 

#1: http://www.tjformal.com/48752/636452/Maternity-Bridesmaids/Bari-Jay-Bridesmaid-Dress-111.html

 

#2: http://www.tjformal.com/48752/550298/Maternity-Bridesmaids/Bari-Jay-Bridesmaid-Dress-809.html

 

#3: http://www.tjformal.com/48752/586019/Maternity-Bridesmaids/Bari-Jay-Bridesmaid-Dress-921.html

 

#4: http://www.tjformal.com/48752/716805/Maternity-Bridesmaids/Bari-Jay-Bridesmaid-Dress-312.html

 

#5: http://www.tjformal.com/48752/585994/Maternity-Bridesmaids/Bari-Jay-Bridesmaid-Dress-917.html

 

I think I like the first one the best, and I love that green (also DF's favorite color).

post #46 of 76

I also like the first the best. The others are nice but that first one is just outright beautiful.

post #47 of 76
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I also like the first the best. The others are nice but that first one is just outright beautiful.



I think I like that one the best too. I found it for $40 cheaper on another site :) I think DF will also like it. I'm only worried about strapless.. and hope my pregnant boobs would fit into a strapless gown!

post #48 of 76

I have 38 FF currently and could wear strapless. You'll be fine :)

post #49 of 76
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I like the first and second the best, but the second in a different color. When in doubt, order a size up and a seamstress can take it in at the bust as necessary.

post #50 of 76

I feel like curling up in a ball and crying. I want my husband home. I want to know WHEN he will be home. Why is that soooooo much to ask? It's going to be within the next 2 months... being able to pinpoint it to even a week would be nice... would let me know when I need to get things done (like taking in my dress, making the sign, getting the baby's homecoming outfit, stocking the fridge with the foods he'd want)

post #51 of 76
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I feel like curling up in a ball and crying. I want my husband home. I want to know WHEN he will be home. Why is that soooooo much to ask? It's going to be within the next 2 months... being able to pinpoint it to even a week would be nice... would let me know when I need to get things done (like taking in my dress, making the sign, getting the baby's homecoming outfit, stocking the fridge with the foods he'd want)



grouphug.gif I hope you find out soon!!

 

Mine comes back in 1 1/2 weeks. I can't wait!

post #52 of 76

I hear you Maeryn...okay, here's a funny (WASN'T FUNNY AT THE TIME) story for you. I wasn't at my own wedding ceremony thanks to the Air Force. So my hubby (then fiance) was in Tech School with a graduation date set for the last weekend in April. Our wedding date was set for the first weekend in May. So he graduates Basic and gets his assignment a week later...Italy. There was no way I could accompany him to Italy if we waited to get married in May because there is a lot of processing to be done for an overseas PCS (note that I was just with him one week earlier at his Basic Graduation, if we had known this then we could have gotten married that weekend at the courthouse or something). So we ended up having to get married by proxy, with one of his buddies standing in for me (THAT made for a hilarious picture lol). Well, we still wanted a "real" wedding ceremony (with both of us there), so we decided to continue planning the wedding and we would just tell parents and such that we were already married. So I planned the whole thing and put down payments on the location and etc. and then the AF decided to add two weeks to his Tech school (like a month before he was to graduate). Of course, everywhere was booked for weddings a month out (including the base Chapels), so no luck. Thankfully we were able to get our money back from the down payments, but we didn't have a wedding venue. On top of that, he gets told that even after he graduates there is no telling when his orders will come through, and that he can't leave the base until he has orders. So pretty much there is no planning a wedding, even of the smallest sort, because we will have no notice of when he's coming home for leave until he gets orders. And at that point he would be home within 2-3 days. So the wedding gets scrapped (we're married legally, anywho) and I wait around for news that he's coming home. He gets orders 5 days after graduating (top of his class!) and is home 2 days later. So yeah...I learned quickly not to make any plans or to expect the AF to cooperate with any plans I might want to make. <hugs>, cause I totally get it. 

 

ETA: Oh and did I mention that I also got pregnant on my trip to visit him for Basic graduation? So I was dealing with 1st trimester pregnancy hormones that whole time on top of all the wedding stress :)

post #53 of 76

My guy comes home in one week!!

 

our wedding.. well, we're planning on eloping, kind of, whenever we can. He's in the reserves, so his schedule is mostly open to plan things, but basically I'm waiting for my divorce to be finalized (my ex is dragging it out in court- we would have been divorced a long time ago if he wasn't dragging it out). We pretty much plan on getting married within days of my divorce- how romantic, huh? hehe But, we can't plan or set a date, unless it's a year or two away, because I have no idea when its all finally going to be over with. redface.gif

post #54 of 76
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My guy comes home in one week!!

 

our wedding.. well, we're planning on eloping, kind of, whenever we can. He's in the reserves, so his schedule is mostly open to plan things, but basically I'm waiting for my divorce to be finalized (my ex is dragging it out in court- we would have been divorced a long time ago if he wasn't dragging it out). We pretty much plan on getting married within days of my divorce- how romantic, huh? hehe But, we can't plan or set a date, unless it's a year or two away, because I have no idea when its all finally going to be over with. redface.gif



Yay!

and UGH... I went through the same stuff. We started planning our wedding as of the day after my divorce was final and were married 2 months later! It will be a year in 8 days... and it sucks SO bad that he's going to miss our 1 year anniversary :( 

But then, we've never had a Valentines Day or Easter together in our entire nearly 4 year relationship, so what do I expect?!

post #55 of 76


 

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Yay!

and UGH... I went through the same stuff. We started planning our wedding as of the day after my divorce was final and were married 2 months later! It will be a year in 8 days... and it sucks SO bad that he's going to miss our 1 year anniversary :( 

But then, we've never had a Valentines Day or Easter together in our entire nearly 4 year relationship, so what do I expect?!


So, if I have the math right, you were together for 3 years before your divorce was final?

 

(feeling hopeless over here that this will never end!)

 

post #56 of 76

Yes but... we only took about 6 months to get the divorce final once we were able to actually FIND my ex husband and serve him. He didn't show up for anything so it was pretty easy for me to get everything I asked for. They won't let you just divorce someone without proving you exhausted your resources trying to find them :(

post #57 of 76

MP, I LOVE  the dress.  And vent away, it is shitty that they gave you a window at all just to take it away. hug2.gif

 

Kontessa, where in MD are you?  I grew up in Charles Co. and my parents live in Dunkirk now. 

 

SierraBella, love the dress.  I hope you can get it to fit the way you want it to.

 

Katie, IKWYM about anticipating problems even though there's no reason to think there should be problems.  I'm sick of something ALWAYS going wrong.  It sucks.  Sucks sucks sucks.  I'm always on edge, every time there are plans.

 

Now going back a page to see who I missed....

 

 

cassandraz, I'm a coastie wife too! Sometimes it sucks being under Navy command, because you get spoiled (IMO) just to come back to the CG's "leverage your people, not your equipment" attitude.  Ah well.

 

mommytoalmost6, have you been told that the MTFs here are full lately?  DH is reporting today and I need to call Tricare and switch us over from South to, ah, I guess this is considered North. My plan is to complain about Ft. Eustis being 15 miles away and hope that they'll give DD and I waivers to see civilians.  Or maybe they'll be full there.  Fingers crossed....

 

BirthisAwesome, hello again! I've been absent from here as well as the CTA thread.

 

So I am officially sick of moving.  I never want to do it again.  Every time we move they break stuff that i care about--not the crap, you know, but the one chair I really like, or my sewing box, or whatever. I'll get over it, I guess, I always do, but grrr it sucks.  I'm definitely not buying any more decent furniture.  DH reported in today to his new unit.  He's been living the civilian life for 2 years now, and I can tell he was nervous.  He's afraid he's going to forget to take off his hat inside, or forget about saluting, or something.  It'll be funny to hear how it goes.  Now we have to do a damage claim, and apparently you have to do it on move.mil now or something?  Anyone done this before?  Last time I did one it was all on paper--that was only 5 years ago! 

 

Is there any other new-to-the-unit stuff we need to do that I might not know about?  I can't really rely on DH for this stuff...other than switching our Tricare?

 

Now the baby is waking up....


Edited by justKate - 6/6/11 at 10:34am
post #58 of 76
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mommytoalmost6, have you been told that the MTFs here are full lately?  DH is reporting today and I need to call Tricare and switch us over from South to, ah, I guess this is considered North. My plan is to complain about Ft. Eustis being 15 miles away and hope that they'll give DD and I waivers to see civilians.  Or maybe they'll be full there.  Fingers crossed....

 

Hey! I'm a thread stalker... just wanted to chime in here. We have standard, so I'm just going by what our neighbors and friends say. The MTF's at Eustis are full and when you go in you're likely to sit for a few hours just waiting. The specialists at the Naval Hospital in Portsmouth are booked up too. Our neighbor sat in a waiting room for an entire work day for an appt and mri. But then we have friends that see the MTF's on Langley AFB and they seem happy. That would be a looong drive for you though. I hope you can get waivers!

 

Is anyone from Bliss? We're headed there soon!

post #59 of 76

I got to talk to DF online briefly yesterday and he told me he might be home one day earlier than I expected.. which means 3 days!!! YAY!!! joy.gif

 

madis81- Where is Bliss?

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madis81- Where is Bliss?



Southwest Texas. It's by El Paso, very close to Juarez, Mexico.

 

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