Naptime: i say "are you ready for bed", he trots into his room, lays down w me, i give him a bottle and he generally is out in less than 10 minutes.
Bedtime: i say "do you want to read books" and he will usually trot into his room and pick up a book for daddy to read him while i finish dinner and make bottles (we usually start this at the first sign of tired - rubbing his ear/face, but sometimes he skips that and has already started ramping up to a meltdown). And thats where easy ends. Hes at the point where we can't close the door without a meltdown, so he winds up spending more time in the kitchen trying to get my attention than in the bedroom reading. And then almost every night lately a meltdown has ensued within 10 min of starting the routine. I come into the room w bottles, change him, lay down and he will usually lay down next to me (until a few nights ago when the meltdown would escalate). And then DH leaves, turning out the light and closing the door. The last 2 nights ive had to pull out my ipod and play music to get him to calm down and stop banging on the door. And then the next 60-90 minutes go something like this - eat, pull off, barrel roll, quiet for a few minutes so i think hes drifting off. Then he'll start hitting himself in the face or shaking his head violently to keep awake. I try to stop him, try to soothe him and he'll just roll. We do this for 10-15 minutes and then sometimes he'll start crying (sometimes not) and he wants the bottle again (will spit it out before this). He'll drink some more and then we start this process again. When i think he's done eating, i roll over to disengage from him. Some nights he cries for a moment, some nights he freaks (but this is the only thing saving my sanity at this point). At some point I will fall asleep and then he will too, but usually not before hes rolled back and forth across the bed, stolen the blankets, spun in place, hit me and kicked me repeatedly, etc. My DH will typically come wake me 10 min after he goes to sleep (he listens on the monitor), which has been putting us at or after 8:30 (we start this process at 7 most nights).
And then to top it off he's started waking around 5 wanting a bottle, but then refuses to go back to sleep.
I dont get to eat until 9, except in cases like last night when i had just sat down to eat when he woke up and i had to spend another 20 minutes putting him back down, and it was well after 9 when I got back to my dinner. I dont get to bed until about midnight trying to keep this house running and my sanity, and now he's waking at 5!?!?
I'm really just done. I've been completely sleep deprived for over 19 mos now, and i really cant take it anymore. I've tried nightweaning and he will work himself into hysterics really quickly. Then i get to spend another hour or more calming him back to sleep after giving in and giving him the bottle. We've tried having daddy do the first waking, but thats just as bad. Full hysteria as soon as he realizes its daddy coming in the door and not mommy.
What on earth can i do here? I'm getting to the point where its tempting to just hand him his bottle, lay him down and walk away, but i know hed work himself up to vomiting in minutes.
Help!?
Bedtime: i say "do you want to read books" and he will usually trot into his room and pick up a book for daddy to read him while i finish dinner and make bottles (we usually start this at the first sign of tired - rubbing his ear/face, but sometimes he skips that and has already started ramping up to a meltdown). And thats where easy ends. Hes at the point where we can't close the door without a meltdown, so he winds up spending more time in the kitchen trying to get my attention than in the bedroom reading. And then almost every night lately a meltdown has ensued within 10 min of starting the routine. I come into the room w bottles, change him, lay down and he will usually lay down next to me (until a few nights ago when the meltdown would escalate). And then DH leaves, turning out the light and closing the door. The last 2 nights ive had to pull out my ipod and play music to get him to calm down and stop banging on the door. And then the next 60-90 minutes go something like this - eat, pull off, barrel roll, quiet for a few minutes so i think hes drifting off. Then he'll start hitting himself in the face or shaking his head violently to keep awake. I try to stop him, try to soothe him and he'll just roll. We do this for 10-15 minutes and then sometimes he'll start crying (sometimes not) and he wants the bottle again (will spit it out before this). He'll drink some more and then we start this process again. When i think he's done eating, i roll over to disengage from him. Some nights he cries for a moment, some nights he freaks (but this is the only thing saving my sanity at this point). At some point I will fall asleep and then he will too, but usually not before hes rolled back and forth across the bed, stolen the blankets, spun in place, hit me and kicked me repeatedly, etc. My DH will typically come wake me 10 min after he goes to sleep (he listens on the monitor), which has been putting us at or after 8:30 (we start this process at 7 most nights).
And then to top it off he's started waking around 5 wanting a bottle, but then refuses to go back to sleep.
I dont get to eat until 9, except in cases like last night when i had just sat down to eat when he woke up and i had to spend another 20 minutes putting him back down, and it was well after 9 when I got back to my dinner. I dont get to bed until about midnight trying to keep this house running and my sanity, and now he's waking at 5!?!?
I'm really just done. I've been completely sleep deprived for over 19 mos now, and i really cant take it anymore. I've tried nightweaning and he will work himself into hysterics really quickly. Then i get to spend another hour or more calming him back to sleep after giving in and giving him the bottle. We've tried having daddy do the first waking, but thats just as bad. Full hysteria as soon as he realizes its daddy coming in the door and not mommy.
What on earth can i do here? I'm getting to the point where its tempting to just hand him his bottle, lay him down and walk away, but i know hed work himself up to vomiting in minutes.
Help!?
