I have struggled with the fight over my kids rooms. They are very good and helpful with some prodding to help clean the house and pick up toys as I am pretty strict about family use areas being clean. The issue is their bedrooms. They are all homeschooled and young(18 months to 8 years). We have tried multiple things including it needing to be clean before breakfast, having one day a week where is needs to be clean so I can get in and vacuum, me cleaning it, getting rid of everything so there is nothing to make a mess. Right now we are doing the clean it once a week thing and every time I go into their rooms I want to die. They are so messy! Especially my 8 year old dd. She is very creative and artistic and is always sewing, crafting, writing or painting something. She is also a hoarder keeping piles of rocks, kids menus from dinning out, every piece of paper she has ever written on etc. She shoves things into closets and under her bed etc.
It makes me feel crazy!!! And my husband says I can't say or do anything if we have the one day a week rule.
I remember very vividly my mother screaming and yelling and taking away my toys and clothes for not having my room clean. I was a very messy kid and only got organized when I was married and had kids. I don't want to traumatize her but I don't want her to grow up to be a slob either.