I am interested in sharing with other mamas or papas in the same situation. I have found it very difficult to go through life unequally yoked because I am such a passionate person and like to through a lot of energy into the things I love and believe in. When my energies are conflicted with within my home and my efforts are a lot of the times curbed by a dh who doesn't see things the same way I have a hard time being silent about it. You know?
I know that it is not right for me to be vocal about being upset, misinterpreted and curbed. Of course it is not sin for me to feel that way, it is sin for me to judge the situation according to my own perceptions and start being self righteous and thinking I am right and then acting that way with my words. That never promotes peace in my home.... and never ever gets anything accomplished.
So I was reading this morning in 1 Peter and in chapter 2:18-20 talks about slaves being submissive to their lords, not only to the gentle and good but to the cruel. Then in 3:1 it says wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands. I know that there are a lot of places in the Bible that talk about the way husbands should treat their wives, and sometimes I get caught up on "well, if he's not treating me right THEN...." but I need to keep my mind on love not being a conditional or deserved thing, and just doing it because that is what we are called to.
Anyway, 3:1-4 say
"Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, even if some disobey the message, they may be won over without a message by the way their wives live, when they observe your pure and reverent lives. Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes; instead, it should consist of the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God's eyes."
This is going to be where I need to focus for a while. I feel lately like I am looking at my husband through eyes that say "you shouldn't spend your time doing that", "that's not a good example for the kids", "I deserve to be treated like this", "if you loved me you would see that I need.....".
Which may all be true, but if my focus is there I am going to start acting like a spoiled brat who thinks it's all about me.
If anyone can suggest other passages that talk about obtaining from God a pure and gentle spirit, that would be great. I am going to pray that the Lord will grant that to me, and tape scriptures to my walls about controlling the tongue. Or scripture about bringing things to God instead of vocalizing... because while husbands may not be cruel, the feelings that come from being treated certain ways are cruel. I don't want to be someone operating based on feelings but that is a hard thing. Any advice would be taken well too :)