Hi all, 1st time poster here. I am healthy and fit, no med probs, in my late 30s, and 9 weeks pregnant with a 12/10/11 delivery date. I am looking for a great midwife who works out of a birthing center (I live in Clinton Hill/Fort Greene, Brooklyn and don't want a home birth for various reasons) as well as a doula.
I have done a lot of research on midwives/midwife practices and am shying away from bigger practices such as MOM because from what I've heard you don't get that personalized attention. I understand that midwives are very busy, but I don't want to feel rushed, or as if I'm taking up someone's valuable time. It is also very important that the midwife I visit throughout my pregnancy be the one that actually delivers my child, rather than worrying about having to rely on her backup(s), who I haven't developed a relationship with. I also want, if I end up giving birth in a hospital birthing center, to have a midwife who will advocate for me and follow my birth plan instead of changing it up at the last minute due to external pressures, etc.
RE: midwives, I have left a voice message with Stacey Rees, and called Kristen Leonard who is out of the country for next several months, so she is out. My gf loved
Miriam Schwarzchild, who delivered her baby--anyone have any experience with her?
RE: doulas, my gf loved hers--Kristy Zadrozsny. Are there any at NYC Doula coop etc. who you loved your experiences with, who you can recommend? I am looking to spend around $1200 or thereabouts for doula services, but will pay a bit more for someone with a great vibe and solid experience.
RE: actual birth, I'd love to give birth at a birthing center/hospital birthing center. I am a pretty tough chick but if I am out of my mind I want to be able to have the option of pain meds without being made to feel like a wimp. I've heard good things about Brooklyn Birthing Center but not about Maimonides, which is the hospital that moms risk out to. I also have read a ton about SLR, but hear that it can be tough to give birth at the BC unless your conditions upon check-in are "optimal." In short, I want to avoid a medicalized, clinical birth environment! Post birth, I am looking for skin-on-skin contact with my baby, where my husband can be at my side for as long as need be.
Mamas, I am really looking forward to the insight and wisdom you can provide for me culled from your birthing experience. I have faith that the birth experience can be a positive event in my life and not this awful, medical, super high pressured, Keystone Cops type of situation. I look very forward to your responses!