why am i so darn tired all the time?

[lilgreen]

Over the past 2.5 years I have tried 7 different medications and combinations of antidepressants. I see my psychiatrist regularly to try and find my best fit in terms of medication. With every medication fatigue has become too severe to continue. I'm currently on 100mg of Pristiq, up from 50 hoping that the fatigue is a depressive symptom that just needs to be nipped. But I'm still exhausted no matter how much sleep I get.

I've had my iron tested and thyroid tested. Also tested for a kidney disease or infection. I'm waiting for these results but I think its unlikely.

I'm a healthy weight, forcibly active (I of course would rather sleep than exercise but have to manage 3 kids). I eat relatively well. I usually have 1-2 cups of coffee each day and 0-3 glasses of wine at in the evening.

Please tell me why I am debilitatingly tired all the time. It's affecting my kids, my school (I'm a PhD student), and my marriage!!!

[crunchy_mommy]

I wish I could tell you... I am dealing with the same thing. I get some relief from a gluten-free diet but I still have severe fatigue most of the time. Sometimes I convince myself it's all in my head (related to depression/anxiety/etc.) but overall I feel it's something with my body... yet my doctor hasn't been able to find anything major.

So I guess in addition to the thyroid & iron tests, I would look into things like chronic fatigue syndrome, food allergies/intolerances, adrenal issues, lyme, sleep apnea, Epstein-Barr, etc. Do you have any other symptoms, or only being tired?

Is the fatigue directly related to medication? If you were taking nothing, would you still have that fatigue?? I do remember having issues with certain meds myself, years ago when I was taking those meds... but I have been med-free for a while now and the fatigue has only gotten worse.

[MiniMum]

I wish I knew too. I'm trying a raw food diet. :D

[SubliminalDarkness]

Interesting.... I was taking Luvox and it made me so tired I couldn't function at all. I switched to Lexapro and I feel great now! 

[anjsmama]

Have you considered food intolerances? I am gluten intolerant and before figuring it out and switching to GF I was so tired I could barely move. The moment my DS went to bed (6pm) I'd crash, DH would wake me up for dinner, I'd do some housework & go to bed. Despite 10 hours of sleep, I'd wake up feeling like I got hit by a bus, and a few times I even fell asleep taking care of DS! DH would try every once in a while to take him for a weekend adventure and let me literally crash for as long as 15 hours - ZERO improvement. Very similar: healthy weight, well-rounded diet, forcibly exercising (now I can ENJOY exercise! i love running!) 1-2 cups of coffee, 0-1 glasses of wine. Between the exhaustion, depression, anxiety, migraines, and joint pain, I thought I was going to die. Since switching to GF (and dairy free improves it for me too) my energy level has improved GREATLY - so much so that being pregnant and then having a newborn in the house didn't really effect me (sleep & energy as well as depression wise anyway). 

When the fatigue first started/progressed, DH was so irritated with me he could barely handle it. As it got worse over 6 months, he was literally in tears in fear for my life. A certain level of tired is a part of life, and could be a part of parenting and/or meds - but when you can't move, and it never gets better, it's probably something more. 

I don't even have to take anti-depressants now :) As for the anxiety........... Well, I think that's my personality 

[EnchantedMamma]

ansmama  Did you do a complete elimination diet to find out that you were GF intolerant?

I've suffered with inexplained fatigue for years as well, but don't know if I feel up to a full elimination diet.

OP: Taking a multi B every day takes the edge off the fatigue for me. Treating anxiety does as well (Passion Flower helps, although I'm looking into something else that's officially nursing compatible).

Otherwise, it's a mystery to me!

I'm very tempted to try eliminating gluten but it sounds so difficult. It's hard to imagine a restrictive diet when you're exhausted.

I hope you get some answers.

[EnchantedMamma]

Oh, Nuvigil worked wonders for me... but then my insurance changed and it's no longer covered as 'off label' for me :(

It's for narcolepsy/obstructive sleep apnea that does not respond to treatment, and shift worker disorder.

So that's why I'm back to looking for the actual reason that I am so exhausted.

Something called 'EndoRush' also helped a lot. It was a workout/energy drink from GNC. I took it to the Dr. They said maybe it was the caffeine. Puh-lease.

So those might not be things you want to try, but then again they might be an option.

[frugalmum]

I also suffer from severe fatigue.  I have tried gluten free, casein free, gluten and casein free, omnivore, vegan... I do feel slightly better on a very healthy mostly vegan diet but the fatigue is still there.  I am not usually depressed and the fatigue does not seem to be related to my mood.  I wish I had an answer for you!  My fatigue started after a long illness that I healed from, but my energy & strength levels never got back to normal.  The only thing that has helped, apart from eating mostly vegan, is doing a walking program (I do leslie sanone dvds).  I worked up from 1 mile to 4 miles daily and it has definitely improved the quality of my sleep and energy levels, but I am still far from normal.  I will gladly take the modest improvement though!  I feel like I've at least got a piece of my life back. 

I too am a very healthy weight, have had various tests that came back normal.  I do let myself sleep as much as I need to-- sometimes 3 hours a day in addition to 7ish hours at night. 

Some psychiatric meds can cause crippling fatigue so personally I would avoid them at all cost.

[frugalmum]

I wanted to ask everyone-- what symptoms do you experience when the fatigue hits at its worst?  For me it feels like I'm trying to walk through a wall of water-- it is actually hard to move or even walk a few steps, I get body aches, cognitive disorientation (I refuse to drive if I am feeling severe fatigue), difficulty speaking or putting sentences together, pins and needles sensations on my skin.  If I can sleep 2-3 hours it usually dissipates and I feel much better. 

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by EnchantedMamma 

ansmama  Did you do a complete elimination diet to find out that you were GF intolerant?

I've suffered with inexplained fatigue for years as well, but don't know if I feel up to a full elimination diet.

OP: Taking a multi B every day takes the edge off the fatigue for me. Treating anxiety does as well (Passion Flower helps, although I'm looking into something else that's officially nursing compatible).

Otherwise, it's a mystery to me!

I'm very tempted to try eliminating gluten but it sounds so difficult. It's hard to imagine a restrictive diet when you're exhausted.

I hope you get some answers.

I also eliminated gluten and I know what you mean about trying such a restrictive diet when it's hard enough just to get through the day!! What I did was pick up a lot of GF convenience foods at first -- things I couldn't normally afford or even want to eat -- but it helped me get through the first couple of weeks until I started feeling better. A lot of GF foods can just replace what you normally eat, so it's no extra effort -- so, GF pasta instead of regular, GF tortillas instead of wheat ones, etc. I don't know what your current diet is like but if you want to try eliminating gluten I'd be happy to give you some ideas as to replacements that won't take any extra energy!!

When I'm on a GF diet, I honestly don't *feel* all that different but it makes a huge difference in my functioning. On gluten, I literally lie in bed most of the day. I can't cook or clean or anything, just keeping up with DS is my only priority (and we did lots of reading in bed....) Off gluten, I can cook dinner a few times a week, clean the house for a bit, run around for a few minutes with DS, etc. I'm still overwhelmingly tired, but it's like one layer of exhaustion has been removed (and TBH I do have a small amount of gluten one a week at church, which may be a problem, but I'm not sure if I'm willing to give up Communion to test the theory...) It's sometimes hard to stick to it because I still don't feel 100% but whenever I've lapsed & gone back to gluten, I've really regretted it.

Originally Posted by frugalmum 

I wanted to ask everyone-- what symptoms do you experience when the fatigue hits at its worst?  For me it feels like I'm trying to walk through a wall of water-- it is actually hard to move or even walk a few steps, I get body aches, cognitive disorientation (I refuse to drive if I am feeling severe fatigue), difficulty speaking or putting sentences together, pins and needles sensations on my skin.  If I can sleep 2-3 hours it usually dissipates and I feel much better. 

Mostly I just feel immobile. The effort to pick up my arms or head or legs just seems too much to even bother trying. I get lots of random aches and pains and talking, reading, etc. are all too much effort too.. However, sleep helps very little... a full night's sleep might relieve it a bit though...

And if I eat a substantial amount of gluten, I get the above problems plus my brain feels all foggy and I feel not just tired but sleepy, like I've been drugged...

[subtlycrunchy]

Have you ever looked into having your adrenals tested? Fatigue and depression are both key symptoms of adrenal fatigue. Good article from Women to Women with symptoms and natural treatment (starting with lots of rest, of course, but giving up coffee is another biggie). Here's the article I read: 

Adrenal imbalance — the effects of stress and high cortisol levels

 

Good luck, mama! I've struggled with fatigue, too. It might sound like it should be the opposite, but giving up caffeine can, in the end, help you feel more energetic than ever! Taking care of your adrenals also helps with mood, too. Look into it! 

[hibana]

Mostly I just feel immobile. The effort to pick up my arms or head or legs just seems too much to even bother trying. I get lots of random aches and pains and talking, reading, etc. are all too much effort too.. However, sleep helps very little... a full night's sleep might relieve it a bit though...

And if I eat a substantial amount of gluten, I get the above problems plus my brain feels all foggy and I feel not just tired but sleepy, like I've been drugged...

Exhaustion + pains + cognitive troubles sounds a lot like Lyme disease.

[EnchantedMamma]

I think the 'wall of water' analogy is pretty close! I actually feel almost as if I'm UNDER water sometimes. It's hard to even lift my feet as I walk. It's difficult to make conversation or be sociable. My head hurts, but it's more like a tension headache than any other kind. I almost feel short of breath.

Mentally, I feel like my brain is slogging through mud. It exhausts me, on top of the original feeling of physical/body fatigue.

It's frustrating because for the while that I was on Nuvigil I was a completely renewed person. I was bright, I joked and made people laugh, and I breezed through my day. I would LOVE to know why normal life can't be like that. Sure, I felt tired on days I didn't get enough sleep, but it was regular tiredness, not mind-numbing fatigue. Sigh.

I did some research yesterday and may look into d-Ribose (possibly after I finish nursing). It's been used by people with CFS and Fibromyalgia and MS. It's not an answer or a cure, but it is supposed to help a lot and should be relatively harmless. The only caution is that it can lower blood sugar.

There were a few other things mentioned that I will try to find and post.

I just wish I knew what tests to ask for. We need a tribe!

Hope the OP finds some answers or relief.

[BubblingBrooks]

Originally Posted by lilgreen 

Over the past 2.5 years I have tried 7 different medications and combinations of antidepressants. I see my psychiatrist regularly to try and find my best fit in terms of medication. With every medication fatigue has become too severe to continue. I'm currently on 100mg of Pristiq, up from 50 hoping that the fatigue is a depressive symptom that just needs to be nipped. But I'm still exhausted no matter how much sleep I get.

I've had my iron tested and thyroid tested. Also tested for a kidney disease or infection. I'm waiting for these results but I think its unlikely.

I'm a healthy weight, forcibly active (I of course would rather sleep than exercise but have to manage 3 kids). I eat relatively well. I usually have 1-2 cups of coffee each day and 0-3 glasses of wine at in the evening.

Please tell me why I am debilitatingly tired all the time. It's affecting my kids, my school (I'm a PhD student), and my marriage!!!

Have you had your cortisol levels tested? Both am and Pm. And, have you tried going gluten free as well?

[anjsmama]

Originally Posted by frugalmum 

I wanted to ask everyone-- what symptoms do you experience when the fatigue hits at its worst?  For me it feels like I'm trying to walk through a wall of water-- it is actually hard to move or even walk a few steps, I get body aches, cognitive disorientation (I refuse to drive if I am feeling severe fatigue), difficulty speaking or putting sentences together, pins and needles sensations on my skin.  If I can sleep 2-3 hours it usually dissipates and I feel much better. 

When the fatigue is worst, I can't stay awake (even when VERY important things depend on my wakefulness), I cannot get out of bed in the morning - I literally set my alarm 1.5 hours before I need to get up so I can start the process. It is hard to move, my joints hurt, my "blood hurts" is what I always tell my DH... as if I can literally feel my body pumping and moving blood. A ton of dizziness, faintness, disorientation, migraines.. a really hard time focusing, listening, keeping my thoughts assembled. Sleep does not help with most of it (because it's a gluten problem for me, so it takes a few days to wear off). 

[bluebackpacks]

My first suggestion would be a sleep study.  I was in your shoes 5 years ago.  I couldn't believe how tired I was ALL. THE. TIME.  Only when I started sleepwalking and sleep-eating did I think that I should check in with a neurologist.  I had an overnight sleep study (with polysomnogram) and an MLST.  I flunked with flying colors.  I couldn't believe it when the neurologist told me I had narcolepsy.  I laughed and said, "You mean like when the cartoon character falls asleep in his soup?!?"  Within a few years of the diagnosis, my rheumatologist diagnosed fibromyalgia (sleep disorders often precipitate a fibromyalgia diagnosis).  And just to keep me on my toes, I am gluten-intolerant and have severe lactose intolerance ("Ah, so this is what's causing the IBS!").

If you have decent health insurance, the sleep studies are usually covered.  If I hadn't started sleepwalking (which doesn't necessarily happen with narcolepsy), I NEVER would have even thought of consulting with a sleep specialist.  
 

Originally Posted by lilgreen 

Over the past 2.5 years I have tried 7 different medications and combinations of antidepressants. I see my psychiatrist regularly to try and find my best fit in terms of medication. With every medication fatigue has become too severe to continue. I'm currently on 100mg of Pristiq, up from 50 hoping that the fatigue is a depressive symptom that just needs to be nipped. But I'm still exhausted no matter how much sleep I get.

I've had my iron tested and thyroid tested. Also tested for a kidney disease or infection. I'm waiting for these results but I think its unlikely.

I'm a healthy weight, forcibly active (I of course would rather sleep than exercise but have to manage 3 kids). I eat relatively well. I usually have 1-2 cups of coffee each day and 0-3 glasses of wine at in the evening.

Please tell me why I am debilitatingly tired all the time. It's affecting my kids, my school (I'm a PhD student), and my marriage!!!