Not sure how else to start this except by saying I hate my neighborhood! And I need some advice on how to handle it. It's to the point that I don't want to let DD outside to play.
First, so there's a mom with two young kids across the street. We've never spoken to her or anything but she's often out with her kids but the woman is absolutely vulgar in how she speaks to and treats her children. She regularly calls her oldest, who I'm guessing is about DD's age of 3, a little shit and various other names and basically just flips her lid the second she becomes impatient which is almost constantly. And we hear it all-- she doesn't even try to keep it private. Even if we're inside the house, our windows are usually open since the weather is nice and it is just as bad.
Then there's the mom and kids next door. Mom isn't as bad in terms of loudness but I've heard her say things like "If you don't stop, I'm going to kick your ass!" and "If you spray me again with the squirt gun, I'm gonna dunk your head under water and hold it there." She says these things to her 5 year old.
DD plays with them often because if we're all outside they just do what kids do and start playing. But the 3 kids (ages 3-5) she usually plays with are not great either. They say various rude things, hit when they don't get their way, don't respect boundaries, physical or otherwise, including walking right into my house (no knocking) even if DD isn't playing with them. These are all things that we teach DD are not appropriate and she sometimes even asks them to stop doing such and such. I'm glad she recognizes that these things aren't ok but she's also begun to pick up little things here and there that are frustrating.
Also, an no offense to smokers but the mom smokes and doesn't move away at all when her children or mine are near her. I absolutely don't want my daughter exposed to cig smoke.
There's various other things that I'm not ok with like feeding my child without asking me first but all in all I don't know how to bring these things up to her let alone coming across as rude. But it really is to the point where I just want to tell DD she can't play with them or even outside at all if they are. We're working on a garden and I want her to be outside as much as possible though so that's not really ideal. But, for one, I don't want my daughter hearing moms talk to their kids the way these moms do.
Am I just anal about this? I am just hoping that they'll all move, (they're all renters and we own).
Any words of wisdom???
