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Isn't the school under some sort of obligation to keep the parents informed? ...

 

 

A pregnancy isn't anybodies business but kids oding (or even caught with substantial amounts of illicit drugs) on school property I would expect an email with details.   I mean, that sort of thing is open record from the police reports.

 


I'm actually not sure that the schools are required or motivated to inform parents of issues of this sort that might reflect badly on the school.  Our local area has had a couple of high profile instances of teachers or other school employees caught having sex with high school students in the past few years.  The last incident prompted a state wide (I think it was state wide) change in policy requiring schools to notify parents when there was an allegation of sexual abuse by a school district employee.  After that policy change, it came to light that there had been a few other instances in the past few years locally of 1) a teacher and a student caught naked together, 2) a school district employee accused of sexual assault on a student and he had a prior record from another state of this sort that hadn't been caught when he was hired. 

 

The schools, when asked why they hadn't notified parents of these events, told the local paper that they thought it best for the students who were involved for there to be no media attention.  Someone else in the paper hypothesized that the schools thought it best for themselves that there be no media coverage.

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Isn't the school under some sort of obligation to keep the parents informed?

 


Some thing yes, some thing no.

 

At our public school last year, they both sent flyers home and used an automated phone system to keep parents informed about certain things, including an attempted abduction of a student walking home from school and an out break of strep throat. None of the things listed in the first post would have been caused a notification, though.

 

It's not the schools job to let all the parents know that some kid tried some drugs -- for the sake of that student and all the others. We can all choose to talk to our kids about the possibilities of their peers behavior, knowing that one has been caught really needn't alter our parenting a bit.

 

And kids knowing that one kid brought a knife could easily led to MORE kids bringing knives. It wouldn't be helpful to solving the problem.

 

 

 

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