I am so mad and sad right now.
What do you do when your 8 year old DD throws a bowl of cheerios all over the kitchen floor (that you just happened to sweep) because she decided it wasn't the way she wanted it?
We were watching a family movie that DD has been waiting to see for a long time. Everything was great and it was a very nice evening. I came into the kitchen to make a bowl of cheerios and almonds because I knew they didn't eat much for dinner. It was very late and this is usually a privilege to be able to stay up even later to have a snack.
DD saw hers and said " I don't want it mixed with almonds" I said "this is how you always eat it and it was the end of the box". She preceded to stick her hand in the bowl and dump the cereal scattering it all over the table while saying "I don't want it mixed with almonds". Right away I removed the bowl to prevent even more of a mess. I put it onto the counter and told her that this was what I was offering, it's late ....if you don't want it, go brush your teeth for bed.
She started screaming and trying to dump out more cheerios. DH tried to get the bowl and she took it and dumped it sending them all over the entire kitchen. He told her to clean it up (which of course I know is pointless when she is in this frame of mind). She carried on and screamed and called names and so on. He tried to make her clean up and she tried to hit my feet with the broom. I couldn't take it anymore and picked her up and had to drag her into her room to get her away from me. I feel sick from this and I'm so sick of it.
She has mild SPD and is extremely explosive. I focus a lot of time on her and know she has a hard time, but this is just unacceptable.
She holds her self together in school and is one of the model students of the school academically and behaviorally.
At home when all is going her way she is wonderful, but God forbid she decides something is not the way it should be.....
DH thinks she is spoiled. I think she has a self control problem.
What to you do in a situation like this?????
She is 8 YEARS OLD!
She can be so nasty its unbelievable. She is treated so well.
Of course if I could go back, I wouldn't have mixed the nuts and cheerios (which she is always very happy to have- so I don't know why she flipped) They were already mixed and she already started wigging out, so I was not going to allow that. I am so tired of trying to predict what will cause an explosion because it probably is spoiling her.
This is so hard.