Spd kid who EXPLODES! Can't tolerate it anymore. - Page 2

[beachcomber]

Has your dd been evaluated for Autism or Asperger's? I suggest this because a lot of her behavior and issues indicate she may fall at the high functioning end of the Autism Spectrum. Getting her a diagnosis may help her and you get the therapies needed to improve her coping skills. A therapeutic approach that may help her is behavioral therapy or CBT. It's not often covered without an Autism diagnosis.

[Piglet68]

At the risk of sounding like a newbie with a hammer (who may be seeing nails everywhere) I'm going to second the above. 

I've just figured out my daughter has Asperger's. Many of the behaviours you describe are similar to hers: the vile hatred that can come out of her, for example, the rigidity, etc. AND it's normal for some Aspie girls to be "good as gold" at school but then be difficult at home. When you read about AS you may think it doesn't apply to your child, but make sure you read about Girls, specifically. They tend to express their issues differently from boys. Dr. Tony Attwood has an article about it somwhere (here's a YouTube video by him on the subject) and he writes about it a lot in his book "Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome".