Turtle2who, I SO know that feeling and I'm sorry you've had to go through that. I do think though that it's not so much a matter of, how to meet good guys, as what your mindset around it is, and my own experience is that when I'm feeling lonely and a bit needy I attract users and guys who can't commit. Just my two cents...
Mimim, I'll miss you on here. Good luck with your healing process and good on you for taking that time out :)
I've been single 6 or 7 weeks now and I must say it feels like AGES already. A promising sounding online guy (daily emails for a week, becoming really long and detailed quite quickly, lots in common - yet he doesnt seem pushy or creepy at all) has given me his number, I'm nervous and excited! I've left that site though now and joined OK Cupid, it's great so far!
I wonder if I'm being too fussy in my profile, in the section 'Contact me if you...' I've put, 'have a spiritual side, love music and/or words, are flexible and openminded yet reliable and able to commit'...is that too specific do you think? I dont' want to waste my time with time wasters, and I am very clear on what I want. This guy I've been communicating with sounds like the perfect combo - deep yet funny too, but you never know till you meet them in person of course. I'm enjoying the feeling of having stuff 'going on' online, as in guys showing an interest, even if it never leads anywhere. But I really wish I could focus more on my own life (busy as it is!) and less on finding a guy. When I really think about having a relationship, it freaks me a bit really, because I can't imagine how I would push aside all the stuff currently in my life to make room for a BIG, proper relationship (my last one was so part-time, long distance etc). Yet I do still want it so much.