I wanted to get other womens opinion on this...
My husband and I hired a midwife to be our doula. We paid $1,000 for her services. Through no fault of her own, she missed the labor and birth of the baby. Basically, she checked my cervix and I was only 2 cm so we sent her home. The baby was born 1.5 hours later before she could make it back (we were an hour away when the baby was born).
I realize that technically, according to her verbal contract, she doesn't OWE us money back... but doesn't it seem like the "right" thing to do would be to give us something back? I figured out that we spent about 5 hours with her total during the pregnancy... so we ended up paying her $200/hr to basically just talk and get to know each other... and she only normally charges about $35 for an hour long prenatal appointment for her moms.
She's a nice woman and all (I've always heard such good things about her), but I'm feeling kind of bitter about this. It makes me feel like she didn't care about me as a person... only me as a client. We don't have a lot of money... we live on my husbands teachers salary...and it was really hard to come up with that money! To top it off, since the baby came so fast, we ended up called the paramedics to transport us (and the baby) to the hospital, so now we have a big paramedic bill to pay :(
A friend of mine is closer to this midwife and she mentioned the situation to her. I guess she told her that she had thought about giving some of the money back, but her husband discouraged her. What the heck is that?!
I don't know. Am I being ridiculous? My husbands upset too, but more because she never even came out to the house for a post-partum visit. She called a couple times, but that was it. Maybe she didn't like me.
Honestly, she is the only midwife in the area that is willing to attend a home birth (it's illegal) and I feel so upset about all this that I would consider changing my future plans for a home birth (if God gives us another baby someday) and just take my chances at the hospital again. Insurance covers a hospital birth and I won't have to worry about scraping together a bunch of money....
I'd appreciate any input, even if it's criticism (I have my big girl panties on today, lol).