Refund from doula (am I being ridiculous?) - Page 2

[sosurreal09]

Well then OP I think it's by your action she was not there and you don't have a reason to be bitter...

[rachieface]

I am sorry OP, because I can see how that would feel like money down the drain!  However, as a doula I have to agree with most of the PPs.  Even if it doesn't seem like she did much for the money from your POV, she was on call for you and unable to take many other clients during that time.  If she has kids, she probably already arranged for childcare for your birth and payed for that.  She put gas money into her visits to and from your home. 

That being said, I do feel sympathy for you because I would definitely miss $1000!  Maybe it will help some of your feelings of resentment if you think of it this way: you could have gotten your money's worth with a 30 hour labor, where your doula was present every step of way and using every trick in the book to help your labor along.  However, you would have been exhausted after a long labor and possibly would have had various interventions that you didn't want.  Instead, you got a very short and seemingly peaceful labor with a (presumably) healthy baby!  If you view it from that light, you will probably agree that things went just the way they were supposed to!