I met with a doula early on. I basically told her I wanted to hire her, but wanted to wait until closer to 20 weeks. She said she would put me on her schedule and email me the contracts so I could look them over and we could get together after that and do the contracts and pay her. I thought all was fine. She said she would take no other clients in that spot, as she limits how many she takes with a certain due date. As far as meeting her goes, it was at a vbac meeting, not just a meeting for us, but we did spend time talking after and this is what we agreed to.
The first time I called her about hiring her, before meeting her, she took about a week to get back with me. Then, when she said she was going to send me the contracts, again, she took a week to get back to me. Both times it bothered me, but the first time she had an excuse and the 2nd time, I figured she was not in a hurry as they did not need to be signed and all that day. Last week is when we were supposed to get together to meet for a real meeting and I pay her and we go over the contracts and all. But, last week, I also had an incident of getting sick and having to go to the hospital with contractions and fever. Before I went to the hospital, I emailed her via facebook about needing to call. I had not yet made the decision to go to the hospital at the time and was having troubles with the doctor, but did not mention all that in the facebook email. For all she knew, I might have been emailing to set up time and place for our meeting we were supposed to have last week.
But it has been 8 days and I have not heard from her. She posts on FB though so she clearly has time and has been on facebook and gotten my message. She also has been posting during this time to the email group we are on. To make matters worse, there have been posts about how great she is and how supportive she was to other women and how she has spent hours talking to her other clients and how close they felt. AND, she even "liked" something on my FB page.
I am glad I did not mail her the check. I had offered to mail her the check but she said I could give it to her when I see her in person. I am really disappointed that she is so nice to all her other clients, and then gave me the total blow off rather than telling me she did not want to be my doula. It was made clear that I was not interviewing anyone else. She is so nice to everyone else, but clearly has dropped me with no notice..not even now.