My husband and I are planning a homebirth for our first child this summer and are very excited. My mother in law is also very excited about the birth and when she asked if she could come to watch, we said yes thinking that we would love to have her there for her grandchild's birth.
We've been watching a lot of live births and birthing videos recently, and since we currently live with my mother in law she's been watching too. But every time we watch a birth, she gets really squeamish and says things like "ugh!" and "yuck" and has to look away from the TV screen. This makes me really, really nervous because I do NOT want her doing that during my birth. She was so excited about coming to our birth, and always says that she thinks it's such a good idea that we're having our baby at home naturally, and tells me a lot how wonderful my husband's birth was for her. I thought with all this talk that she would be absolutely fine watching my birth, but after watching her reactions to the births we've been watching I'm really nervous about having her attend.
I'm not really sure what to do now, if we should uninvite her or let her come. The problem is that my mom is also coming to the birth, so uninviting my mother in law and not my mother may cause quite a few hurt feelings. She's already feeling very hurt and left out because my husband and I are moving out of her house in a few weeks, and I'm afraid that uninviting her to the birth will really, really crush her. But at the same time I don't want to feel uncomfortable or nervous when I'm giving birth. This is our first child so I don't really know what to expect during labour, having someone in the background getting grossed out really isn't going to help me!
What would you do?