I'm reading the current birthday party thread, and I'm wondering this: is it considered weird or antisocial to *not* do a friend-party for one's childrens' birthdays?
My kids are 5 & 4: kindergarten and pre-school. Now that ds has entered kindy, the other moms are starting to do big classroom parties for their kids, inviting the whole class and making an enormous event for everyone, complete with destination and goody bags, etc.
To date, I've always had family parties for my kids: just family/grandparents and a sheet cake with present-opening and such. The kids have been thrilled with this, but now that we've discovered "invite 15 of your closest friend" parties, the kids are talking about "I'm going to invite EVERYONE to my party!" --- it's almost a social currency as far as who gets invited to what and all (eg., when a child is angry at someone, they'll say "I don't even want to invite them to my birthday party!").
I don't even want to go there. Reading the current birthday party thread about who's invited and who's not and all of that worrying just makes me dread the birthdays.
I'm not all that comfortable in large group situations, particularly when I have to be the coordinator of everyone's happiness (!) and Fun Activity Time Lady for a group of school children and all. The thought of putting on a birthday party for my kids' classmates and their parents makes my palms sweat thinking about it.
What are everyone's thoughts? Would my children be the odd ones out if we just continued our family parties?
Also, would my children be hated if I allowed them to pick one child whose family celebrated with ours at our family party? How would you feel if one of your children's classmates did that?