Heather, I do think some children will always need a nudge or even stronger help to make certain leaps. Is this her personality in other areas? Is she a child who is really reluctant to move outside her comfort zone, doesn't do new things willingly or easily, won't try something new if she thinks she can't do it perfectly? I think it's a good sign that she's talking about weaning and being ready to give up nursing sometime soon. But if you think she's going to have a hard time taking that final step, then giving a gentle push might be appropriate. Depends on how you're feeling. I'm all in favor of if it ain't broke, don't fix it. I truly believe that every child will wean on their own at some point!
My older two did wean on their own, DD at 5 1/2, DS at 6 and some months. Not quite as long, LOL, but it did feel some days like they were going to be nursing when they started college! For us, giving up nursings was definitely something that happened in fits/starts. It wasn't a slow, gradual process. The nursing to sleep was the last that went for both children. We eliminated the nursing in the morning by the simple method of Mommy getting up before they woke up. If I wasn't in bed, they didn't ask to nurse. And at some point, they just didn't ask even if I was in bed. DD weaned completely when we attended an LLL conference and I said, "Wouldn't it be great to wean at the conference?" (because where else can a 5 year old announce weaning and get positive responses?). And she thought it was a great idea. Honestly, I wasn't trying to push weaning, I was just making an observation out loud. But it appealed to her extroverted nature and got her a lot of positive attention. DS kept nursing to sleep at night for almost another year until he told DD that he would wean "tomorrow" after she asked when he was going to wean. The next night, he asked to nurse, sister reminded him of what he'd said, he laughed and said, "Oh, yeah." and was done. Sort of surprising how fast it happened at the end, for both of them.
I got pregnant w/ DD2 pretty much at the same time DS weaned, which was just a coincidence, but DS was the first to "diagnose" the pregnancy. I was getting undressed one evening and he observed that my nipples and aerolas were bigger. That made me wonder, and sure enough. . . Trust the barely-weaned, boob obsessed boy to notice
Bethseth, nursing a preschooler or gradeschooler is so different than nursing a 2-year old! Compare what it's like now with what it was like when he was a baby. . . and I think it's even more different than that, so don't let the idea discourage you. These kids are nursing once or twice or maybe 3 times a day, not the on/off all day (and night!!) long that most 2 year olds do. If I had to keep that up for years, I'd definitely wean my kids! I keep telling myself that "this too shall pass", and it really does. What I always said to moms who were worried when seeing my older kids nurse was "your child probably won't nurse this long." Which is true - most children who are allowed to CLW will wean well before 5 or 6 or 7.
Originally Posted by bethseth
i read these posts with a heavy heart!!! lol! I have a 2yr old who is attached to my hip! We co-sleep, I'm a SAHM and I fear he may never want to CLW! He nurses as much now as he did when he was 1! I don't want to lose the closeness we have, but would love some personal space! or at least be able to sit down for 1 minute without him ripping off my shirt!