I haven't posted in forever, but I still visit here from time to time. I'm interested in your thoughts re: my desire to relocate in the next two years.
We have been living in my husband's hometown since our first child was born over seven years ago. The first few years were fairly happy, mostly because I was so over the moon to be a mommy that I didn't care how much I disliked this place. I'm a politically progressive, artistic atheist. The overwhelming majority of people here are evangelical Christian and not progressive. As the kids have gotten older (they're now 7, 6, and 4), things have gotten really lonely for me. And I'm worried my kids are lonely, too. We homeschool because the schools aren't very good and have a really Christian slant to them despite being public. We've considered putting them into a Montessori school, but that would mean 15 K per year and a fifty minute commute each way. I have one close friend here who is wonderful, and her kids and my kids are regular playmates. Though we have lots of other acquaintances, I feel like some people just aren't interested in us because we aren't believers.
Though we talked seriously about moving several months ago, we concluded that it was too risky financially. My husband is 49, and relocating would set us back several years. He's self-employed and could probably set up an office in a new location, but doing this might require us to burn through our savings and our retirement, which we got a late start on to begin with. Job prospects are sketchy for me because of the economy, and I'm really trying to develop my writing career, which I'm having some success with, though so far it's not very profitable. We're also concered about selling our house in this economy, even though we could sell it below market value and still walk away with a little money.
Try as I might, I just can't see myself sucking it up until my youngest is 18. I feel like our best option is to save a couple of years and hope the economy recovers. My husband thinks a better option is to try to find a second residence in the nearest city (two hours away), and use that as a weekend escape to which we can eventually retire. I can't see being happy with this arrangement.
Any thoughts? Sorry this is so jumbled, but it's hard to write with my kids running circles around me.